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Oddly emotional over the Queen

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Mamma66 Fri 16-Sep-22 16:51:07

I will freely admit that I am an enthusiastic supporter of the Monarchy and in particular have always held the Queen in very high regard. But I have been surprised at how emotional I have been over her death. I think it’s partly because any death reminds us of the passing of loved ones, but the death of our Queen has affected me far more than ever I would have expected. I have been quite quite tearful on several occasions and am not normally given to sentimentality. I feel a genuine and tangible sense of loss. Has anyone else been the same?

GagaJo Fri 16-Sep-22 16:53:08

Me too. But my mum died a few months ago, and I think my emotions about my mum are being triggered again by the Queen's death.

PoppyFlower Fri 16-Sep-22 16:59:54

Hi, me too! I have already lost an elderly Aunt (expected) and a family friend (not expected) this year so it has brought the emotion right back. But think I would still feel emotionally on the edge. The Queen is a big loss for us all. xxx

varian Fri 16-Sep-22 17:03:52

I think we have all lost a much loved parent or grandparent and the death of the Queen triggers our memories of personal loss.

henetha Fri 16-Sep-22 18:19:01

Yes it does feel very personal. I've watched the Queen all my life, being 11 years younger than her. A bright light has gone out and I feel bleak.

Luckygirl3 Fri 16-Sep-22 18:26:20

I can't say that I have been emotional over this. I think she did a good job as a representative of the nation for many years and worked hard into old age. But I think some of her decisions about her family and what they could and could not do brought unhappiness to them (Princess Margaret, Prince Charles for example).

I have known others equally deserving of respect, and equally flawed as humans and have been sad at their passing.

But no - no emotion here.

ginny Fri 16-Sep-22 18:38:58

Luckygirl3

I can't say that I have been emotional over this. I think she did a good job as a representative of the nation for many years and worked hard into old age. But I think some of her decisions about her family and what they could and could not do brought unhappiness to them (Princess Margaret, Prince Charles for example).

I have known others equally deserving of respect, and equally flawed as humans and have been sad at their passing.

I feel the same although I do feel for her close family. They have had no time to grieve the loss of a Mother, Grandmother, Great Grandmother Aunt .

Luckygirl3 Fri 16-Sep-22 18:44:29

Yes I agree - being in the public eye when grieving must be very stressful. But I guess this is the flipside of their role and their privilege - can't really have one without the other.

Cherrytree59 Fri 16-Sep-22 18:45:26

I was devastated,when I lost my my grandparents, especially my maternal grandmother.
She was there for me.
A kindly soul with a warm heart and lovely smile.

It feels like we have lost the nations Grandmother .
This makes me said .
Our someone who is 'just' there is no more.
Sands have shifted.

Anniebach Fri 16-Sep-22 18:59:41

ginny you are mistaken about Margaret

icanhandthemback Fri 16-Sep-22 19:13:09

No, I don't feel like that but that is quite normal for me. I tend to take everything in my stride with very little grief at the time; just a determination to get everything done and dusted. Then, about a month later, it will hit me like a bus and I will be beside myself. I think it goes back to the days when there was so much loss in my life as a child and showing emotion was a no-no. I had to wait until I could be out of sight before I let it out.
That said, I think the Queen was a fantastic lady who made her judgements in light of the era she was living in. What we think is wrong now we wouldn't have at the time.

MissAdventure Fri 16-Sep-22 19:17:25

As king, could Charles change the mourning routine?
It could include a couple of weeks off for the family before any of the other arrangements are tackled.

tickingbird Fri 16-Sep-22 19:17:53

Yes it has been very emotional for me too. I knew it would cause me to shed tears but I shed more than expected. I think the tv coverage makes it worse.

karmalady Fri 16-Sep-22 19:32:48

oh yes, me too. That she was was dutiful her whole life, that she always had a smile on her face, that she was never nasty to anyone. Then especially what she said to us all during covid and how she always gave us hope. I don`t know anyone else who has given us her whole life with such a gentle heart

merlotgran Fri 16-Sep-22 19:35:48

Yes, I have shed tears and felt very emotional. Watching events as they unfold on the TV has made me very proud of the RF and the whole country.

Washerwoman Fri 16-Sep-22 19:37:04

Two things have unexpectedly made the tears stream. First watching the plane leaving Edinburgh with Anne accompanying her.Somehow Anne's face was so poignant.And today's service from Cardiff caught me unawares.The singing and service were so beautiful .And my own mum is 100 and Welsh so has lived through all the Queens reign and more and is so terribly frail now

MissAdventure Fri 16-Sep-22 19:41:12

I thinks it's very much along the lines of watching children singing Christmas carols.

TerriBull Fri 16-Sep-22 19:42:24

Yes very emotional about her, like many others here on GN I've known no other monarch. I completely ignored her and the rest of them for pretty much most of my life, just a backdrop but developed a deep affection for her certainly as I've got older, perhaps that coincides with loss generally, a feeling of our own mortality seen through the prism of hers. The last photo of her I find particularly moving, so frail and yet the radiance of her smile, the last time we'll see it.

MissAdventure Fri 16-Sep-22 19:43:59

So, are any of you usually emotional people, because I have a theory I'd love to test.

ginny Fri 16-Sep-22 19:53:13

That’s interesting*Miss Adventure *. In general I am a heart on my sleeve sort of person. Many small things can bring me to tears. As above apart from feelings for the family I don’t feel particularly emotional about it at all.

I hope you will let us in on your theory.

MissAdventure Fri 16-Sep-22 19:56:34

Well, you have blown my theory apart somewhat, if you are representative of the emotional people. smile

I had thought it was perhaps people who had usually put a brave and cheery face, when feeling the the total opposite.

ginny Fri 16-Sep-22 20:00:55

Sorry. 😏

MissAdventure Fri 16-Sep-22 20:02:23

And it's all the more unlikely to show anything that would prove the theory, because I've broken all the rules now.

Georgesgran Fri 16-Sep-22 21:11:25

I think it’s sad, even though not unexpected. On my desk, I have a picture of my late DH meeting HM at Sandringham. He was very proud of it and there was a clip on YouTube (now gone). I must admit I looked at it this morning and shed a tear, but not sure for whom.

biglouis Fri 16-Sep-22 21:22:51

Ive watched most of the ceremonies and parades because of my interest in history. I dont have any emotional bond with the queen but her death has made me think about loved ones I will never see again. In my late 70s and it has brought home to me that I too am living in what my gran called "borrowed time".