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Nicola Bulley 45y Old mum of 2 little girls missing from River Wyre area since last Friday morning at 9:15am walking her dog, Willow.

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Urmstongran Tue 31-Jan-23 17:18:37

This, in the news is breaking my heart.
I hope she comes home safe soon - but every passing day is such a worry.

CatsCatsCats Wed 15-Feb-23 19:56:47

Hmm, I didn't think of it like that - that the police might not have been able to divulge her 'vulnerabilities'.

But I can't help thinking it would have been better for the police if the information had been released sooner rather than later.

Why all the secrecy? I don't see the point in it, as the truth will always out....

Smileless2012 Wed 15-Feb-23 20:02:30

the truth will always out I agree CatsCatsCats no matter how long it takes.

Galaxy Wed 15-Feb-23 20:07:04

Poor woman. I think there may be many people juggling work, family etc who have that particular vulnerability.

Oreo Wed 15-Feb-23 20:09:13

MayBee70

Germanshepherdsmum

welbeck, they have explained significant facts about the background which clearly they weren’t able to divulge earlier. I think they have been driven to do so in their own defence.

I agree. I now feel bad about how critical I have been about their handling of the case.

That’s why less is more on this topic.
Seems to me that the police are and have been, doing all that they possibly could do from day one.
They have been forced into saying all this now by the negative speculation around the case.

Fleurpepper Wed 15-Feb-23 21:36:46

Very sad. I always felt that something was missing from the information we were given- which is why I felt strongly we should wait and not speculate.

merlotgran Wed 15-Feb-23 22:20:50

This explains why the police didn’t take part in the Dan Walker televised interview with Nicola Bulley’s partner who talked at length about her without a hint of any problems with alcohol.

Given all the interest and support from the public it should have been revealed from the start to avoid speculation.

Joane123 Wed 15-Feb-23 23:05:19

What a shame this wasn't revealed earlier.
So sad for Nicola.

Chestnut Wed 15-Feb-23 23:57:05

The diver has said that the Police had not mentioned the alcohol when he conducted his search. He would have searched differently if he had known. So that's not good.

Kate1949 Thu 16-Feb-23 00:18:23

Yes. The diver told that to Jeremy Kyle I believe. I found it sad that he is going on such programmes talking about this.

BlueBelle Thu 16-Feb-23 07:50:51

Jeremy Kyle ?? Is he around Kate where ? I ve never seen his name mentioned since he went under a cloud

If someone is determined not to be found it’s possible she has maybe gone over and over it for months before acting, at first I couldn’t believe she would leave those little girls but a very depressed mum would be thinking ‘they ll be better of without me’

Galaxy Thu 16-Feb-23 07:55:02

Yes hes lurking about on talk TV, slowly looking for rehabilitation to more mainstream channels I suspect.

Kalu Thu 16-Feb-23 08:12:39

Kate1949

Yes. The diver told that to Jeremy Kyle I believe. I found it sad that he is going on such programmes talking about this.

I find it despicable and very unprofessional at a time when this poor families lives are in turmoil. He gets his 15 mins of fame at their expense!

Galaxy Thu 16-Feb-23 08:15:04

The behaviour of the diving expert has made me quite uncomfortable throughout.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 16-Feb-23 08:16:18

The diver was brought in by the family so it was for the family to tell him about the alcohol problem, not the police who were quite rightly keeping the information confidential, probably at the family’s request. If this knowledge would have made a difference to his search, he should have asked the family if alcohol might be a factor, otherwise how would anyone know this might make a difference to how he worked?

Iam64 Thu 16-Feb-23 08:17:02

Chestnut

The diver has said that the Police had not mentioned the alcohol when he conducted his search. He would have searched differently if he had known. So that's not good.

Am I right in remembering the private river was brought in by the family, not the police. It was up to Nicola’s husband to be open with him. If the police had told the diver about their welfare visit on 10.01.23 and knowledge of a drink problem, they’d have been criticised for breaching confidentiality.
it seems the police reached the point where it was felt necessary to give some background that could explain its early conclusions about this disappearance.

Sparklefizz Thu 16-Feb-23 08:17:25

Very good points GSM

Iam64 Thu 16-Feb-23 08:18:27

Sorry germanshepherd’s mum - we cross posted

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 16-Feb-23 08:25:22

Great minds, Iam … 😊

Iam64 Thu 16-Feb-23 08:30:40

Yes 🌞

Kalu Thu 16-Feb-23 08:32:32

Exactly GSM. Again, having a dig at the police who were rightly keeping this information confidential whether or not requested by the family. This was not information for him to disclose to the public.

annsixty Thu 16-Feb-23 08:56:53

I feel so differently about this very sad affair today after this information has been disclosed.
Before, it was total bewilderment as to how someone just simply taking the dog for a walk could disappear and the family left in shock.
Today I feel that apart from the children they knew the possibilities that something happening was not totally shocking.
The police had been called to the house when concerns for her safety had been expressed.
It does put a whole new light on the situation.
I fear those children will never get their beloved mummy back.

Forsythia Thu 16-Feb-23 09:02:53

I was wondering, as a possibility, if she had sought refuge somewhere would they be obliged to tell the police she was there? I don’t know enough about the subject to know.
From the photos released, she looked a healthy bright eyed lady, not one who suffered with alcohol issues.

lemsip Thu 16-Feb-23 09:09:30

The police said from the start that 'no one else was involved'

when the police were called to the house on 10th jan for a 'welfare check' I believe nicola was threatening her own life but declined to go to hospital. (happened to a family member last year)
her very many friends who kept this case 'alive and in the press' have inadvertantly made the police disclose the personal info'. I wonder if they knew of her problems.

Germanshepherdsmum Thu 16-Feb-23 09:12:43

If you ‘harbour’ someone that you know the police are looking for you’re guilty of obstructing their enquiries. I don’t think she’s sought refuge anywhere though. Nor do I believe she’s still alive.
Functioning alcoholics are good at masking their problems and makeup gives a woman extra help in that direction. She was only in her 40s but in time it would have shown in her face.

25Avalon Thu 16-Feb-23 09:14:19

The police are now being accused of victim blaming. For goodness sake all everyone wants to do is find this poor lady alive and get her home safely to her two children.