JaneJudge
Dickens, you have really annoyed me with this othering in your post. The institutions were shut down but no other infrastructure has been properly put in place, parents in their 70s, 60s and 50s and downwards are coping alone with very little respite for their children or siblings with complex needs. I don’t know what advocacy this woman had in place but these people are human beings and if their needs are met properly by social and health care they can live happy live ms that they don’t find so challenging
This isn’t a personal attack btw so shouldn’t be deleted or taken personal as people I live annoy me aswell
I don’t know what advocacy this woman had in place but these people are human beings and if their needs are met properly by social and health care they can live happy live ms that they don’t find so challenging
But their needs are not met are they?
I speak from experience. My late mother, a retired SRN, had to basically 'look after' her neighbour who was suffering from severe DID, who was aggressive and threatening to the other elderly people in the multi-occupied accommodation; had to try to coax him to take his medication, and was almost 'on call' to him - because having worked in that particular field she felt very sorry for him (and so did I because I was with her sometimes when she had to try to calm him).
I am not blaming the victims or 'othering' them, it is the whole system of care that is in tatters. This man really was so disturbed by his 'demons' that he could not live within the community in any meaningful sense. When he was quiet and calm (which always worried my mother) he was unhappy and depressed. Ultimately, she contacted his doctor - I think she was afraid that he might injure himself or someone else.
Sometimes, people with MH problems really are too ill to be left alone on the assumption that they can lead a fairly normal life in the community if, like this man, they are living in an almost permanent state of acute crisis - this man could not. And he was miserable because he couldn't understand what was happening to him.
I'm sorry that I have annoyed you. It wasn't my intention to 'other' anyone.
Gosh one poster accuses me of being too magnanimous to this woman (because I said the sentence seemed too harsh) and now I'm being accused of othering her!
I think I'll call it a night.
Oh - and I wouldn't even attempt to get your post deleted simply because you took issue with what I wrote - I find it odd that you'd even think that!