maddyone I'm very sorry to hear about your FIL.
I would just like to make the following point.
When some favoured posters say they are leaving a thread, that's acceptable. And yes, sorry, but I do include you maddyone, although I don't think any of it is your doing.
When others, who are slightly less popular, say they are leaving a thread, they get told that nobody's interested, why are you telling us that, that its a typical response from them, that its getting too hot in the kitchen. They get asked why they are perpetually hanging around.
That hasn't all happened on this thread.
But the double standards and the attempts to discourage people who face doesn't fit with the gang, they are breath-taking.