Seems Prince George will be attending Eton after all, same as his father and Uncle Harry.

Louis needs care, which it seems likely he will get from his parents. The press started labelling him as a trouble maker (cute variety, Fidget, rebel etc. a couple of years ago. R at her in the way like his uncle Harry says he was labelled.

It seems cruel to label such a young child. We all develop at different rates and have different attributes.

I don't think you can attend Eton as a day pupil, or even a weekly boarder, so the proximity of home at Windsor wouldn't alter the fact that George would have to be a full boarder.
I believe you can however be a day pupil at Marlborough, which coukd also give the flexibility of boarding while parents are away on tour.

Tiring journey home every day

Yes, it wouldn't be my choice to travel that far, but it's only an hour. Many children travel that amount of time every day.

Jaberwok

Boris was a Kings Scholar at Eton, only awarded to outstanding pupils. He was extremely clever and excelled as a classics scholar at Oxford. Like a lot of brilliant people, he was however, and is, extremely disorganised and a stranger to discipline and detail, not good attributes for a P.M! A fact we are all well aware.of. However, to say Boris.is not clever is a complete misnomer.

He may have been 'clever' but he didn't get a First at Oxford.

Andrew’s daughter Eugenie went to Marlborough

I know it’s the done thing in the RF and in many circles, and maybe can’t be avoided if in the forces, but it always saddens me to see young children sent to boarding school.

Joseann

Yes, it wouldn't be my choice to travel that far, but it's only an hour. Many children travel that amount of time every day.

True. Thanks to the joke of parental choice of school, my DGC did that twice a day.
Let’s hope he makes friends.

Callistemon21

ronib

SORES distracting girls? What?

I went to a single sex school and imo they are far better for girls because teenage boys can be quite nasty bullies if they think a girl is cleverer than them, even in this day and age.
We had no problem with friendly relationships outside school hours and I don't think any of us are odd 😁
(Although you might think so, ronib)

I’m sorry to say there was some pretty nasty bullying at my all-girls school, and dd2 found the same at hers. Dd1 at the same school was luckier with her particular year, though.

I know several people who were boarded and not one had a happy experience.

Children who have nannies may not find boarding difficult

icanhandthemback I can't quite get my head around why if you have children, you choose to send them away.

Precisely.

We went to Day school, Dad drove us quite a distance and again home for family dinner. The girls who boarded always seemed sad, missed their families, or that was my view. Understanding Church was the goal, accomplished well by any standard, and we still lived at home. However, one of my siblings flourished when allowed to board the last couple of years. No easy answer for all.

Boarding at 13-18 is not the same as sending your young child away to school, because teenagers are much less likely to feel abandoned than younger children, and to relish the experience. By that age they are already pulling away from family and want to spend time with friends and do activities with them. My husband was a boarder, he was very sporty, and he loved it. It depends on the child, but for many it is a positive experience.

But they can do that at home, Casdon. Schools run sporting events and there are clubs for such things. It's a lot cheaper than paying Boarding Fees and they grow up with their family as they are transitioning from child to adult even at that age. Boarding School gives a totally unrealistic role model on how to parent teenager which is such an important thing to know once they are parents.

One friend once said that in Africa, it takes a whole tribe to raise a child. This comment made over 45 years ago has stayed with me. We don’t have a tribe mindset here though do we?
So some parents will seek extra input in all sorts of ways. If a boarding school environment works for that family, who are we to judge? Not everyone has a fully developed extended family network.

I am only commenting ronib because it is one of the downsides to boarding which is noted in research about Boarding School Syndrome. I have met so many damaged people from Boarding School that I am amazed they are still acceptable.

Casdon

Boarding at 13-18 is not the same as sending your young child away to school, because teenagers are much less likely to feel abandoned than younger children, and to relish the experience. By that age they are already pulling away from family and want to spend time with friends and do activities with them. My husband was a boarder, he was very sporty, and he loved it. It depends on the child, but for many it is a positive experience.

One of DD's friends chose to board at 13 because he felt he was missing out on a lot of after school activities.
Unless a parent can pick them up later after school, then they have to catch the bus. Pupils attend from quite a large area and some live a distance away.

(I know that wouldn't happen to George, of course)

icanhandthemback

I am only commenting ronib because it is one of the downsides to boarding which is noted in research about Boarding School Syndrome. I have met so many damaged people from Boarding School that I am amazed they are still acceptable.

My DH is perfectly acceptable, thank you!!

icanhandthemback

But they can do that at home, Casdon. Schools run sporting events and there are clubs for such things. It's a lot cheaper than paying Boarding Fees and they grow up with their family as they are transitioning from child to adult even at that age. Boarding School gives a totally unrealistic role model on how to parent teenager which is such an important thing to know once they are parents.

Yes of course, the point I’m making though is that it’s not necessarily as disadvantageous to the young person to go away to school as has been implied. I don’t agree that it necessarily distorts their view of parenting either, as by 13 they have experienced most of their childhood, and boarding schools have very generous holidays, so they are only actually away from home for less than eight months a year - excluding weekends, if they are weekly boarders.

As is mine Callistemon.

Sadly there are plenty of parents who appear to have a distorted view of parenting who didn't go to boarding school.

Icanhandthemback I can assure you that I have met many damaged people. Some might have been less damaged if they had been given a supportive, all round education. There are a number of State run boarding schools which exist and are thought to be very satisfactory. It’s not always the case that a chaotic home life equips children for adulthood.

Well I went to boarding school aged 11 - 17 1/2 after failing my 11+ fairly spectacularly! After early home sickness I actually enjoyed it, made lots of friends, and was generally pretty happy. Mind you it was a small Convent school in the countryside, only 20 miles from my home, where the Nuns and Lay staff were by and large kind people. Those who lived close enough were allowed home for one weekend a month plus half term, so it wasn't complete lockdown! I've never resented being sent away for a moment, in fact as an only child, living with other children suited me well. I can see it wouldn't be for everyone though as we're all different.

Callistemon21

icanhandthemback

I am only commenting ronib because it is one of the downsides to boarding which is noted in research about Boarding School Syndrome. I have met so many damaged people from Boarding School that I am amazed they are still acceptable.

My DH is perfectly acceptable, thank you!!

As is my sibling who boarded a few years and one of our daughters who insisted on going abroad for a year. Everyone reacts differently.

I think perhaps having parents who were reasonably on hand, as in, coming to Sports Day, theatricals, carol concerts. Anything and everything really, even if I wasn't participating, my parents always came which I know made a difference particularly in the early years. Those whose parents, for whatever reason didn't come to various parental.functions didnt fare quite so well. Some lived abroad so obviously couldn't. I was always glad I wasn't one of those.

Many children, and I and my sisters were among them, go to boarding school because their parents have peripatetic jobs and the alternative is children growing up with an inadequate education

My father was in the army. I went to 8 primary schools, and lost nearly a year of my primary education to illness and the shifting from place to place.. I then went to 2 secondary schools, one of them a boarding school. Had I not gone to boarding school, which I did at rising 12, I would have changed schools again at 14, and more crucially in my second year in the VI form. Moving at Easter and due to take the exams in May/June.

Most of the boarders at the school I went to were the children of service people, diplomats and other parents whose jobs meant they were constantly on the move.

Going to boarding school for me meant having friends, friends I have had for life, rather than friends I had for the length of a posting, which could be six months, or once, three whole years.

I know that my parents, especially my mother, hated having to send us away to school, but could see no alternative. To take up a point Jaberwok made. When in the UK my parents came to school events, and when they were overseas, I had various aunts and uncles who would turn up in their place,

I know many people who have been ot boarding school, who have been unaffected by 'boarding school syndrome' whatever that it is. We have had successful careers, successful relationships and happy lives, other than the tragedies that can affect anyone.

At 18 my experience of travelling the world unaccompanied by and adult, just a younger sister, and of being at boarding school, meant I settled down at university far faster than many. I was much more self-confident and capable of sorting out problems for myself.

I can never remember being homesick. My parents, especially my mother always talked thrings through with us, so I always knew and understood why everything that happened was happening and my father was one of a very large cohesive family, so wherever I was, there always seemed to a relative ready and willing to visit, take us out, sort out problems. Some one said about a child raised by a village, well my father's family, and my mother's much smaller family were my village