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Lady Gabriella Windsor’s husband Thomas Kingston died from ‘catastrophic’ head wound.

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Urmstongran Fri 01-Mar-24 15:20:42

Tragic to hear this 45y old was found dead at his parents Cotswold out building on Sunday with a gun by his body. Such a shock to read this I had been assuming a heart attack or similar.

Condolences to all his family.
RIP Mr. Kingston.

Callistemon21 Mon 04-Mar-24 15:38:42

Good point lefthanded
Everyone is assuming.

Germanshepherdsmum Mon 04-Mar-24 16:34:11

Given that he had locked the door of the outbuilding where he was found, lefthanded, it’s a reasonable assumption that he intended to take his life.

lemsip Mon 04-Mar-24 16:53:40

lefthanded oh for goodness sake!

Callistemon21 Mon 04-Mar-24 17:01:46

lemsip

lefthanded oh for goodness sake!

Assumption and assuming

Accepting something is true without actual proof.

LovesBach Mon 04-Mar-24 17:35:20

I worked in an office with about six other girls of my age, around twenty. One quiet girl went on holiday, and when she came back she had put on a lot of weight. She remarked upon it to me, and I said I was sure she would lose it again very quickly now she was back at work and in her usual eating routine. A week or so later an older colleague came up to me at the bus stop where I was waiting to travel to work, and said that the girl had taken her own life the previous night. I felt so shocked that I almost collapsed - this was my first knowledge of anyone killing themselves, and I have never forgotten the sickening feeling, or failed to wonder if I had been tactless about her weight and pushed her to this act. She was an only child - her parents lives ruined. The legacy of suicide is so terrible.

kircubbin2000 Mon 04-Mar-24 20:20:35

A local family lost 10 year old son last year and I have just heard his 14 year old brother has done the same thing. You would never get over that.

Urmstongran Mon 04-Mar-24 20:31:13

That is beyond tragic kircubbin2000. Devastating for the poor bereaved family. I cannot imagine their pain.
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TanaMa Tue 05-Mar-24 10:38:21

Sad but I don't think the person ending their life think of the consequences for those left behind. A friend of mine had her son commit suicide just because his girlfriend, and mother of his young baby, was seen talking to another young man. He didn't ask who or why she did this, just hung himself. All these years later my dear friend has still not 'got over' his loss and it is a perpetual worry to her.

Georgesgran Tue 05-Mar-24 10:46:23

It’s terribly sad, but if someone is so determined, there really isn’t much that can be done, other than to help the family try to understand that they were in no way responsible and the deceased had made his or her own decision.
Years ago, an acquaintance’s son hanged himself over a girlfriend - he was 14, such a waste.
My friend’s step-son hanged himself after years of drug abuse and issues around his 7 year old son. He’d had multiple interventions and on-going treatment, but we agreed after the event, that it was always on the cards. His GF had done the same thing.

Georgesgran Tue 05-Mar-24 10:47:24

GF - grandfather.

Kate1949 Tue 05-Mar-24 11:08:07

Tana I think the person does think of the people left behind but their mental anguish is too much to take. My brother left a note saying he was sorry. They may not have asked for help or may have had help which didn't work. I know from personal experience, as do many others on here, that mental suffering is hell. Who would want to live like that?Maybe your friend's son had other issues which he never told anyone about. This often happens.

Greenfinch Tue 05-Mar-24 11:24:21

I agree with you Kate , the mental anguish is so severe especially if it becomes psychotic , that the person becomes totally alienated from reality and is unable rationally to relate to the feelings of others.

Kate1949 Tue 05-Mar-24 11:31:11

Yes exactly that Greenfinch. Impossible for others to understand.

Luckygirl3 Tue 05-Mar-24 11:39:47

I did not know this man but feel for his family. My neighbour ended his life with a shotgun to the head - he used to do my garden for me and I had seen him the day before. No hint of any distress. If someone really wishes to end their life, they do not give anything away. Very sad for everyone.