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What should I Do?

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Anniebach Sat 18-Nov-17 12:37:46

I have always had two or three dogs for many a year, first time since my grandpa bought me my first puppy when I was fourteen do I now have one. B

When my beloved honey died a month ago I was devasted. I decided I was too old to buy another puppy. It was arrange with younger daughter years ago if I died my dogs would go to her, she adores dogs , has three , lives in the wilds of Lincolnshire , a two acre garden and is waiting to buy a field behind their house, she doesn't work.

When staying with me this month she said I need a puppy - when I put on weight ! My brother has told her he thinks I should have another dog, said my home was empty without dogs around me. My son in law( who isn't) has told me to get a puppy,if I was to end up in hospital with a broken leg he would be around for my dogs and care for them. My two son in laws have said I should.

I have a dog walker, there are two puppy and dog crèches here, the vet is five minutes away

I really can't decide if it would be selfish , every chance it and Lottie could outlive me, Lottie is six.

I don't want a rescue dog ,it may not work with Lottie

Help and be brutally honest please ?

This has nothing to do with the death of my daughter, Honey died about a month before and the conversations started when Honey died.

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Christinefrance Sun 19-Nov-17 09:32:37

Annie you can talk through things on here no problem, we understand what is happening and will try to help. Take your time and try to relax, the weight will creep up and then you can think of your new dog. Take care and don't try to rush things flowers

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Nonnie Sun 19-Nov-17 10:06:03

Annie I agree with whoever said you should wait. The advice when moving to a new home is to not change anything until you have lived in it for 6 months. Losing a daughter is a much greater upheaval than losing a dog. Give it time. When the right time comes you will just know.

I think at the moment you should just keep on keeping on and let everything else just look after itself.

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Smurf52 Mon 27-Nov-17 15:25:03

Anniebach - I wouldn’t take on a young pup. I currently have the equivalent of post natal depression. My pup is 9 weeks old. I got her a week ago. Nothing prepared me for the sheer hard work of a new puppy. She is a weeing/pooing/biting machine. She is getting the hang of garden toileting but is also uprooting and eating little bulbs etc. When indoors the minute my back is turned she has toileted on the carpet not on her training mat. I love her to bits but if I could give her away for six months I would and I feel so guilty even feeling that especially as I so wanted her now that I am in my mid 60s retired and lonely. When she cuddles up I feel loving towards her, but if I were you I wouldn’t take on a new puppy unless you can take the hard work in your stride.

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