When to let my old cat go..?

I feel so very sorry for you, but agree with other posters that it sounds as if the time has come. My previous cat had chronic kidney failure and I put off and put off the decision and it really was selfish of me, I regret it so much now.

How awful for you. It's a horrid decision to make. My dog 'told' me when he'd had enough by going outside and lying in his favourite spot. It broke my heart to say goodbye but I knew it was the right thing to do. It sounds from your post that your cat is 'telling' you and from what you say it seems you know yourself the time has come. We had the vet come to our home and as another poster has said and we found some comfort in it.

My sincere condolences on the loss of your father.

It's a hard and heartbreaking decision to do what's right for your beloved cat but judging by your post, it does seem as if it would be the kindest thing to do.

A good suggestion from Glammy to have the vet come to your home. I did this with one of my cats, had him on my lap and cuddled him for the few brief moments it took for him to go. The vet sat in his car until I was ready for him to take him away.

So sorry for the loss of your dad, and for the situation you have now, but i think your cat has shown you she isn't enjoying life now
I have had to do this several times in the last few years
The oldest being 18, so i can understand how you are feeling
Let her go and just remember the happy life she has had with you[flowers ]

Blubbering we had to go through the same with our 19 yr old cat a couple of years ago.He had started to go off on his own in the house and moved out his bed. It was so hard but the best thing to do for him. When you have made your final decision googl th epoem Rainbow Bridge. It really helped me. Thinking of you.

Blubbering I think you already know in your heart of hearts that the time has come, but the realisation and acceptance is so, so hard, isn't it? We had to say goodbye to our little cat last year, so I do understand what you're going through. As someone on here has already said, if she's starting to withdraw then she's probably ready to go. I'm so sorry for you having to go through this.

As a cat lover/owner, I really feel for you! As others have suggested, it is probably time for her to leave you. Please phone the vet and request a home visit as this will make the process a little less stressful for you and kitty. Keeping you in my thoughts! ?

17 years old cat pts 4 years ago. Still miss her but have 2 boys now ?

So hard for you under the circumstances, but I’d bite the bullet. It is hard to watch a beloved pet dying slowly. DH refused to have our last cat put to sleep and regretted it because she suffered. Hugs.

I would add that if possible get the vet to come to your house. Far less stressful all round.

((((Hugs))))

Please, for her sake, do it now. A few more weeks will be pain for her, and won't be enjoyable for you, as you'll feel guilty keeping her going for the wrong reasons. We had a cat with ear and nose cancer, it is awful.

Ring the vet Looking back you will be glad you did it for her. The last kindness you can do for her. x

I lost a lovely 7 year old cat to heart failure recently. The vet said - a cat doesn’t care how long they live, just that they live well. That consoled me as she’d had a good life, if not a long one. Your cat has had a good life and a long one. Take your vet’s advice and do what’s best for your cat. Lots of hugs to you.

I'm so sorry as I know only too well what a heartbreaking thing it is to have to make this awful decision but you know in your heart it's time. Your kitty has had 17 wonderful years with you and this is the last kind act you can do for her.

Condolences too on the loss of your dad. A similar thing happened to me 9 years ago when I lost my father and a couple of months later had to make the same difficult decision for my beloved cat. It's so sad

What a very, very sad time for you. Especially coming just after the loss of your beloved Dad.

Yes, the time is right now for her because if your cat is withdrawing it means she's chosen the end time as well.
In the wild they slink off to die in peace.

If the vet gives her this last injection and you say 'goodbye' with her in your arms, that's probably the final gift you can give her. Hard for you but love causes pain as well as joy.

You've been together 17 years and must have so many happy memories. Try to remember these, they will help you through the grief.

Oh, I'm so sorry. This is the worst part of having a beloved pet, deciding when it's time for a final, loving, act.

I think you're best to seek your vet's advice, and see if there are any more measures that can improve her condition temporarily. If there is nothing, you know you've done your very best for her and it's time to say farewell.