Cat prefers my husband!

Our two previous cats alligned themselves solely to me. However our current one shares the love but only on her terms, she will not be picked up for a cuddle but will jump on either my husband's or my lap when she wants to.

None of our 9 cats are 'lap' cats -though Mien would like to be. Trouble is, he's huge and requires a sofa to himself almost! Cornflake did surprise us the other day though by sitting on a friend's lap...he's never done that before.

Mien not Mien, poor cat

While I am at home, my cat follows me everywhere - or at least is within a short distance from me when sleeping.
When my son comes home, she greets him rapturously and makes a point of climbing onto his lap for a while.
When he goes upstairs, she goes with him and sleeps either on the bottom shelf of his wardrobe or on the edge of his bed but when I go to bed, she comes and sleeps in with me - usually so she can wke me up at 4 am to tell me she's hungry !
Try the slow blink with your cat - look her straight in the face when she's looking at you and slowly close your eyes. When you open them, if she does the same back to you, it is supposed to mean you are pals for life!

Our present cat only cuddles DH when I am not in the room and it is a recent thing that he started after his brother died.
Both of this pair have always been Mummy's boys.

Previously we had a pair that were brother and sister - the male was "my" cat, his sister DH's.

My father wasn't all that keen on cats, but every single cat my mother ever had worked hard to change that, each one starting where its predecessor left off. Towards the end of his life, my father had accepted the situation, and would sit with a cat on his knee.

Persistent little brats, aren't they?

Cats are as individual as people. We have 2 - a bit like 'his & hers' cats. Out male cat disappears for ages but never loses any weight so we strongly suspect a few local people probably think they have a part-time cat and feed him! He has never been a lap cat and a couple of quick strokes is all he will allow before hissing and backing away - he is rarely affectionate but a few times has rubbed his head against my leg, purred when hand-fed treats or ham! Our female cat is a total lap cat but only tends to sit on my lap until my better half comes home then she will abandon me and go straight to him, follow him about (even when he goes to the shed or garage to work) - she absolutely dotes on him, looks at him lovingly and knows he will spoil her (she also loves ham, even more than our little lad does). She knows I am the softer target for food treats like ham or bits of chicken but she is at her happiest when perched on her 'daddy-lap' - damn thing purrs away and could nap for England. Both of our cats are getting on a bit but neither seems to acknowledge the aging process - our boy (aged about 11-12) still murders the wildlife and catches some of his own food as such and still has loads of swagger and attitude. Madam is about 9-10 and still thinks she's a kitten. Both verbalise more now - we don't know if it's just an age thing or a manipulating their humans thing. My better half showed me a funny picture a few weeks back...2 cats chatting - one asks "was your human a rescue too?" - second replies "yes, did have a few issues initially but we working through them and ironing out any problems!" That probably sums up how our cats might feel about us! Just love the cat and accept the way he is, even if he's a treacherous, selfish, ungrateful little thing (like ours), lol

It's a cat!

You need to get another cat for yourself.

* jura2* My cat has never had homework...............

I am always hugely relieved when a cat prefers someone else's lap!!!

Craftycat

I’m interested to hear you also have a cat which appears to be terrified of you, it’s very embarrassing, I’m convinced people think he must be an abused cat.

If we go into a room where he is, he darts out, avoiding any contact, and sometimes disappears for days, or even weeks on occasion.

Where have we gone wrong? Oddly, he tolerates being picked up by the children, but anyone else, forget it!

Nine years ago my daughter’s first baby died during labour. You can imagine the shock and grief. Her cat spent every moment it could on her lap but soon became ill and lost all his fur on the side that was nearest to her body. Loads of tests at vet, all negative. He then asked was there anything wrong at home. When my daughter explained the vet said that was what was wrong with her cat, he was affected by her trauma. It was amazing to see and how he recovered as she came back to life. He was such a comfort to her, I (not a cat lover) cried when he eventually died.

I enjoyed reading all your cat tales ;-)
I think what I love about cats is their refusal to do what anyone else wishes.
Wonderful story Stilllearning I wonder how they know. Shows that at least some cats do care about us.

That is cats for you. They are fickle.

Ours was really lovely. Very gentle and friendly. A beautiful ginger cat. Who used to share the bed with us in it.

We've had several cats over the years - some would tolerate being picked up and one in particular was definitely my cat and would be on my lap the minute I sat down with his paws up to my shoulders - such a special boy. The two we have now are definitely his and her cats. The boy who is the oldest is terrified of the other one so spends most of the day outside in the summerhouse but as soon as his dad comes home he's in and can't wait to sit with him - not on his knee though. He has to do 3 full circles before sitting down in the small gap next to him where he stays until he's fed up and it's time to go out again.

Madam on the other hand is definitely a mummy's girl. An indoor cat she needs to know where I am at all times, is very noisy when it's time for food (which is little and often), tells me when she's been in her tray, sometimes sleeps on the back of the sofa behind me and always on my bed at night but will she heck as like sit on my lap or allow herself to be stroked, petted or brushed. She's very handy with her talons but now has no teeth so can only give a nasty nip. She's so pretty though we love her to bits! Both strays they definitely landed on their paws when they found us

I had a cat before I was married. She was very affectionate and friendly towards both of us after I married. When she was about 5 years old we got a kitten who was intended to be my husband's cat, but as I carried him into the house after the car journey home, my cat took against me - incredibly jealous. The new kitten slept curled around my neck and my original cat wouldn't come near me, even hissed and spat at me and moved to husband's lap!
A year later I fell pregnant and one evening out of the blue original cat jumped up on my lap for the first time since kitten's arrival. That evening, with cat on lap, I felt my baby move for the first time! It seemed the cat knew and decided it was time to make friends again. The cats became firm friends in time and went out scavenging and hunting together. They took to sleeping curled round each other on the sofa during the day and on our bed at night. When the older cat was run over the younger one 'mourned her passing' for about 2 weeks.
The 'kitten' lived to be 19 and I still miss him!

My former boss, with whom I keep in touch, tells me that the family's female cat prefers to sit on her DH's lap and the tom cat prefers to sleep on her lap!

My MIL's cat, Melvin, prefers to sit on my DH's lap but not mine. However he allows me to pick him up for a bit of a short cuddle but he won't allow anyone else to pick him up.

Cats are lovely but have wills of their own!

My DiL wanted pets, cats in particular, I suggested it might not be a good idea as she has a debilitating illness and two young daughters, my son is a full time carer for my DiL and has a lot to do with day to day for care for my DGD's, housework, driving, gardening, DiY etc.
I suggested they wait until DGD's were older and more independent as my son would have to also look after the cats (kittens) on top of everything else.
My tuppence spent I left to them to work out.
I was introduced to two gorgeous kittens, one male, one female and formed a bond, a few weeks later DDiL found another kitten she wanted to have, I suggested that two might be a good number to stop at and again left it at that. Yes you guessed it in comes kitten #3. Of the original two the queen favoured my son, the tom favoured me, the third tom favoured my DDiL, all three kittens soon learned to avoid my youngest DGD and tolerate the ministrations of her older sister.
Longer story short, eighteen or so months later, the queen still favours my son, the tom favours me and the youngest tom has left home about 4-5 months ago.
My DDiL takes it all in good heart as she gets smooches as and when they ( the cats) choose. [grins]

Cats are awkward b*ggers at the best of times! I recently read that Winston Churchill is supposed to have observed that "dogs look up to us, cats look down upon us and pigs treat us as equals."

Seems about right so.........get a pig and teach the cat a lesson.

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Our cats are very affectionate they are our entire world real lap cats we can do anything with them, got them from a fantastic breeder