Paying dog fees

That's a lot of money to ask to borrow. Couldn't your friend pay on his credit card? That's what we had to do for large vet bills for the cats we had over the years.

I’m entirely practical if it’s a young dog with good life prospect then maybe, if it’s an old dog, no, far too many have expensive operations only to die within a year.

Yes indeed GSM everything should be tried to help the dog. That's why we support charities like PDSA and RSPCA I hope the dog gets the care it needs now.

PDSA - People’s Dispensary for Sick Animals - exists purely to treat animals whose owners can’t afford vet fees or insurance. So approaching them, or an RSPCA clinic, wouldn’t be cheeky. The money hasn’t come out of thin air, it comes from people who care about the welfare of animals. I’m one of them and I expect there are many others on GN.

Poor you Lucyloo, awful situation to be put in. Frankly if people can’t afford pet insurance then they shouldn’t get one. It’s a cheek to approach charities too as that money hasn’t come out of thin air. Why doesn’t he set up a Go Fund Me page then people can donate if they wish.
I truly hope the poor dog will be ok as it’s not her fault that the owner is in this position. And don’t feel bad! You’re clearly a kind and caring person xxx

He will never let me have the dog. She has in essence breast cancer with a very large swelling which needs removal. It's that or euthanasia. It is very risky, she could live with ongoing care or not make it at all. It's so so sad for her.

Yes if it means that you have the dog you may feel better.
What is the operation for exactly?

I’m so sorry to read your update. What a piece of work he is. I wonder if the dog really needed an operation? Would he consider giving you the dog to look after? You haven’t been stupid at all - it can take a while for a good, kind and trusting person such as you to see the nastier side of someone. I wish you well - don’t feel stupid for being a good person. 💐

That's awful Lucy.

Oh just realised you have an update Lucy! I hope you can move on from this, as mumsnet would say what an arse

I wouldn’t want any animal to suffer but I’d ask him to speak to his vet to sort out a payment plan, I wouldn’t hand over two grand. I think he’s got a cheek asking you , not your dog. We have our pets insured.

I'm sorry to read your update, Lucy. You are not stupid, you are kind-hearted, and there is no shame in that.

It's a dreadful thing to happen when you realise that you have been used... you'll be going through so many emotions but please believe me when I say that you will get through it and it says far more about the other person.
Your obviously kind and considerate and there are people who prey on others.

I'm sorry your friend turned out to be a user. Good to you realizing and being done with the relationship.

I know you're praying for the best for the dog. I join you.

Lucyloo12, you sound like a very kind, caring person and it's becoming clear that your so-called 'friend' isn't really much of a friend at all. It must be distressing for you to have been treated in such a way, and I hope you can move on from this.

Thank you all for your support. xx

The situation is more complex than I thought Lucyloo I didn't realise you were a couple, however it does seem that the money is the motivating force for him. You have done the right thing now even if it's very sad for you.

Don’t let the b…..r get you down , you have woken up , many another is sucked in and you have escaped , hold your head up , you have won xxx

I'm sorry to read your latest update Lucyloo. Please don't think you're a stupid old woman. You sound like a kind caring person. Your 'friend ' is an unscrupulous user. That is not your fault. At least you have found out what sort of a person he really is.

Thank you Aggie I feel terrible and used all at the same time. I could cry.

In similar circumstances Iv only ever made loans to relative where some essential household item like the fridge/freezer/washing machine packed up. I would not pay it out for an animal, no matter how cute it was.

I agree with the posters who say that it is very wrong for a "friend" to try to guilt you into their situation. In fact I would be stepping back from the relationship with such a friend. An expensive operation is rarely the end of the story as animals often need costly after care. And what if some more surgury is needed further down the line?

Why cant the friend take out a loan or credit card themselves if they need £2000 so badly? Then it will be up to them to manage their repayments to the card or loan company.

Oh Lucy what a piece of work he is ! I’m glad you didn’t give him the money
Put it down to bad luck , and congratulate yourself on not getting more into his clutches

Dee1012 I've known him for over a year and thought we were a couple. Please look at me reply above. I've been played

You don't mention how long you have known your friend and how close the relationship is....
My dogs are insured and always have been but it could be that your friend has struggled to pay for this - circumstances can and do change.
Likewise the PDSA have a strict criteria for help and they could just fall outside of it?
I'd be wanting to know more information but in all honesty, if I trusted them I'd help if I could.

Thank you for your advice. I have sent him the PDSA link as he is on benefits and would not be able to pay me back. He spoke to me last night and in an intoxicated mind said that once the dog was sorted he wouldn't bother with me again... I can't repeat what he actually said on here but it means the same! I'm so upset for the dog but this situation is crazy. I have blocked him on all social media and phone. Absolutely heartbroken ... I thought we had more but have been used for financial gain..... the vet bill is the end of a long list of payments. I feel such a stupid old woman.