Serious cat dilemma

Am I right in thinking that the second cat was acquired because the older cat was a one person cat and other members of the family loved cats and wanted more interaction? Maybe cat one resented the new cat because his beloved owner made a fuss of the new one? Cat pee is the vilest of smells. I must admit that, when my British Shorthair wee’d in strange places I didn’t get much pleasure from having her in my life. I did once give a British Blue cat back to the person I rehomed it from as he would lash out for no reason: it turned out that was why his breeder passed him onto me. I’d never been scared of a cat before. I’ve also had much loved cats that have just left and gone to live with someone else. We’ll never know what goes on in their heads I guess.

If the new cat didn't cause a problem to start with, I'd seriously start looking for another cause. My DIL has had this particular problem and another litter tray has done the trick. The general advice is one tray per cat plus a spare. Her cat also had this problem after they had their baby and he became a toddler. Not only did he pee but he tore his own fur out too.

It might be worth trying Zylkene which helps anxiety. There are just so many steps you can go through before rehoming. An animal is for life is a good role model for the children. Obviously sometimes things go awry but you need to show children that it is really the last resort.

Thanks Opelessgran15 (which I'm sure you're not!). I'll be looking out for that book on Amazon. I've heard about these flower rescue remedy drops. Hard to imagine giving them to the wee thing considering how hard it can be to give him pills but another helpful suggestion.

Aveline

Thanks Opelessgran15 (which I'm sure you're not!). I'll be looking out for that book on Amazon. I've heard about these flower rescue remedy drops. Hard to imagine giving them to the wee thing considering how hard it can be to give him pills but another helpful suggestion.

I took them before I went on a long haul flight for the first time.

MayBee70 the second cat was because they were so happy with the first and thought it would be lovely to have two. However, that was a few years ago and the peeing has only started being really bad over the past year. Something must have changed but what?!

Aveline

Thanks Opelessgran15 (which I'm sure you're not!). I'll be looking out for that book on Amazon. I've heard about these flower rescue remedy drops. Hard to imagine giving them to the wee thing considering how hard it can be to give him pills but another helpful suggestion.

They do one for animals

www.rescueremedy.com/en-us/range/all-products/rescue-remedy-pet/

Callistemon did someone have to hold your nose and squirt them down your throat?

Opelessgran15

Relevant Bach Flowers.2or 3 drops in water or on food.
Good luck with it all,I hope for a happy outcome for all.

You can buy plug in pheronomes too. But probably this has gone far beyond- re-homing with no other cat and no young children asap.

No, I put them on my tongue I think.
It was a long time ago 😁
Mind you, opening a cat's mouth and dripping a couple drops on its tongue takes a better woman than me!

I think the problem came in trying to get callistemon down from the curtains .....

Book and drops now ordered. Hope Callistemon has calmed down and purring again.

Katek

I think the problem came in trying to get callistemon down from the curtains .....

😂

Yes, I am now, a cold Sauvignon Blanc to hand 😀

Sauvignon Blanc? Now that's something I hadn't thought of ...

He might develop a taste for it 😀

I'll be in trouble now for suggesting you feed a cat alcohol.

Shocking!

Well, they do say wine is fluid retaining! 😂

Hi
I agree please don’t euthanise a healthy animal …Im sure there will be a behaviourist near Your Daughter .

I used to have 2Ragdolls …Lovely cats 🙂🧡

I agree the second cat should be rehomed rather than further upsetting the first one by rehoming him. Poor cat.

Please read the whole thread.

Aveline I think you put drops of Rescue Remedy in the cats water.

Has he been tested for a urine infection? If it’s not that, it’s more than likely to be anxiety / stress related territorial marking. Could you possibly have the newer cat so the original can relax and get back to being his happy normal self?
I doubt many vets would consider euthanasia on a fit healthy cat and something like that would be so unfair on him. He’s displaying his feelings in the only way he knows how.

I only usually had neutered toms who got on well together. I then added a female cat who ran away. And my British Shorthair girl who wee’d everywhere. I wonder if it would have been better to add another Tom cat rather than a female kitten who probably wasn’t spayed straight away ( I can’t remember at what age you have cats spayed).

I feel so sorry for cat number 1. Poor old thing. Despite his breed, you may find it very difficult rehoming a cat with this problem and he could end up passed from pillar to post then eventually euthanised. My heart is breaking for him. I do understand the problem. We have a sprayer, we have puppy pads all over, even pinned to the wall. We don't leave anything down he could pee on. Rehoming is out of the question. When we took our cat's on, it was a commitment for life. I bet your daughter being exasperated with the situation won't help his stress. Did your daughter ask the vet about anti anxiety drugs? Advise her to watch some Jackson Galaxy videos on YouTube, he gets good results. Sorry to sound mean but it sounds like your daughter just wants rid rather than put the effort in. There's many excuses why she can't do this and that. I have no patience with people who justget rid of family pets. This poor boy is devoted to your daughter you say. The feeling isn't reciprocated obviously

My DD absolutely loves this poor cat. She covers up for him a lot so her DH doesn't realise how bad things are. As previously stated I'm seeing her this w/e and will pass on the useful suggestions.