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Do you have a favourite grandchild? Take a survey on favouritism - £100 voucher to be won NOW CLOSED

(116 Posts)
JustineBGransnet (GNHQ) Thu 09-Mar-17 11:25:29

We at GNHQ would like to find out a bit more about what GNers think about favouritism, and whether members have any favourites among their own grandchildren. Obviously this will be a sensitive issue for some - please rest assured that your answers will be anonymised and we won't trace individual answers back to individual GNers. All GNers who complete this survey will be entered into a prize draw to win a £100 voucher from a store of their choice.

This survey is open to all UK GNers who are grandparents.

Click here to complete the survey.

Thanks and good luck!

GNHQ

Nelliemaggs Sat 23-Sep-17 13:24:39

I have six and see 3 every few years, two of them every fortnight and 1 of them lives with me but I can honestly say I haven't a favourite. I can think of any one of them and I feel a tingle of love. They are all affectionate and I love them all too much to single one out.

Grandma2213 Sun 24-Sep-17 01:28:02

I have to be honest ... yes the youngest is my favourite though I would never let on. I think it is because despite her young years she has a great sense of humour that appeals to me. She can cheer me up on the darkest day! Of course she is pretty, clever and talented like all the others but she just has something more.

DoraMarr Sun 24-Sep-17 20:58:57

I do. My first granddaughter was a tiny baby who needed a lot of care. I first had her overnight to stay when she was a little less than six weeks old, to give her exhausted parents a break and the chance to have a good night's sleep. I have always felt very protective towards her, and, because she lives near, I have seen her two or three times every week, had her to stay overnight and looked after her during the day. She is now an extremely engaging and active ten-month old, still quite small for her age, but healthy and happy. My second grandchild is a beautiful little girl who is, at five months, forwarder her age. I don't feel she is as vulnerable as my first granddaughter and, because she lives in another city, I don't see her as often. I hope both sets of parents and both little girls never find out, but the heart knows what the heart knows.

maclinks Thu 05-Oct-17 22:49:19

no, try and make sure I don't do that. Children can be very perceptive if you show favouritism

NotSpaghetti Tue 10-Oct-17 18:11:27

I completed the survey... do we know anything about the results?

M0nica Tue 10-Oct-17 21:56:16

Absolutely, DGD is my favourite granddaughter and DGS is my favourite grandson. And that accounts for both of them. I only have two, one of each

fiorinda Sun 22-Oct-17 13:03:38

When my daughter was expecting her first child a work colleague said to me that getting your first grandchild was like falling in love, and that she didn't think you could ever love subsequent grandchildren in quite the same way as the first. And I believe she was right. I love both my grandsons with all my heart, but feel so much closer to the first one. He stayed with me from being 6 weeks old, and I got to spend 2.5 years worth of visits with just him. The 2 boys have very different personalities, and the older one is so laid back and easy going, and has always been so well-behaved and amenable. His little brother is a drama-llama and so moody. Funny as anything, cheeky and adorable, but not as easy to be with.

You can't help how you feel about your kids or grandchildren - the important thing is not to let them be aware of the differences. My ex-husband was my daughter's best pal (he's not her father) till our son was born, and both my kids grew up very aware of his favoritism. I'm confident that neither my grandsons nor their parents have any idea that the older is my favourite. Only my husband knows. And you now. grin

NfkDumpling Mon 23-Oct-17 07:05:06

This survey has been on since March, how long is it going on for. Is it for real?

Marmight Tue 24-Oct-17 01:46:56

I've been wondering about this for some months Dumpling. I think GNHQ have forgotten about it. The voucher must have increased 50% by now grin

NfkDumpling Tue 24-Oct-17 06:01:03

grin

Riverwalk Tue 24-Oct-17 06:39:34

Yes, it's odd - been around for so long with a £100 prize and only 111 entrants. Even the professional compers have given up. grin

Vange Tue 24-Oct-17 06:50:58

Not easy for me - I have 4, but am only in touch with 3, as my son no longer speaks to me. I'd say I love my oldest grandson because he was the first; his sister because she was the first girl; then my son's first child before he split from his wife, because the baby was only a few months old then. Now he (my son) has a daughter, but as I say, I've never even seen a picture of her, because my son (I think) feels guilty, & is projecting that onto me because he knows I disapprove of what he did. SO - love them all - but one I have to send love to from a distance.

Saggi Wed 25-Oct-17 09:16:26

Favourite....of course I have favourites!! My 10 year old grandson is an avid reader ( like me).... hates football ( like me) .... loves me ( like me)..why wouldn’t he be my favourite grandson?!? My 5 year old granddaughter on the other hand is noisy( like me) .... smarter than her brother( like me)... energetic ( like me)...outdoorsy (like me) untidy (like me)...and has been known not to suffer fools gladly( like me).... and anyone who asks this ‘favouritusm’ question, if a grandparent is a fool!!

Carado Fri 27-Oct-17 12:43:52

Grandchildren are there to be cherished, not favoured. I love them all - and any more will be most welcome.

Livlee Wed 01-Nov-17 19:29:20

Completed the survey. Good luck everyone! smile