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Daughter pregnant, son-in-law having an affair.

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2112magnolia Sun 06-Mar-11 18:01:51

Hi,
Am new to this forum, but am having a terrible day - my daughter is 36 weeks pregnant with her second child, my grandson is four-and-a-half and has just started school at Christmas. Yesterday a woman turned up outside my daughter's home claiming to be the mother-in-law of a woman my son-in-law has apparently been having an affair with since last July. My daughter has said this turns out to be true, it started via the internet just after her positive pregnancy test...he hasn't denied it, and although sheepish, has been talking of leaving them all after the baby is born. My daughter seems ok, but can't be...she has a good family support network, and we will never let her struggle financially or in any other way we can help her. I thought I was ok, but have suddenly become very tearful and overwhelmed by this - I guess it's shock, we didn't see it coming and thought our son-in-law was great...Can anyone offer any thoughts which might help, we can't be the only ones this has happened to...thanks for listening.

crimson Sat 14-May-11 19:45:03

smile

crimson Sat 14-May-11 19:47:10

smile..as reply to Dr Seuss I must point out...

helshea Sun 15-May-11 18:09:09

Crimson the suspense is killing me!

crimson Sun 15-May-11 18:15:38

see page one......castration!

lili Mon 16-May-11 19:07:20

I love this site, I so dooooooo... Thanxxx everyone for the giggles

gillybob Fri 20-May-11 10:53:58

Magnolia, in my experience its really important that you try hard not to bad mouth the SIL (even though I appreciate you want to kill him for hurting your daughter). These things sometimes work out different to how we expect and there is every chance that they still my get back together, whether before the baby is born or later, who knows? Things that are said in the heat of the moment cannot be unsaid and may be used against you in the future.

Stay strong for your daughters sake. Good luck.

Grandmacool Fri 20-May-11 11:02:09

I totally agree with what FakePlasticTrees said.

Try and keep your cool and be careful what you say. Also, good luck for your surgery.