Over 50 internet dating

It would scare me to meet anyone now, how do you sort out the financial side of a relationship. For example if you meet in your twenties as I did with my late husband you both put the same commitment into the relationship. However, in your late fifties or more you may both have different financial circumstances, i.e. one of you or both may have property, how do you divide it if your own family expect to inherit it. I remember a friend who broke off her relationship as she did not want to cause arguments with his two children who had been promised their dad's house. Also if one person has much less than the other how can you tell if they are genuine or gold diggers. When my husband died someone told me that there are lots of men who are just looking for a home (I had a council house at the time) and they will get into a relationship just to get their name on the rent book. I would feel like a prostitute if any man paid for me in any way without me paying the same amount back. I have never allowed a man to pay for me when on a night out. How do you know how to trust them

Hi, I have tried a few of these sites and I actually look for older women, late 60's, 70's+, as I find that they know what they want and do not want too much. Some have been good and some have not. Many do not seem to want a full relationship, looking only for, lets say passion, which isn't always a bad thing and I still meet some of these lovely ladies. Then, as others have said, there are the total opposite who want all your time and are, as said before by others, a little twisted. I would say try the sites and state exactly what you are looking for at the beginning to avoid problems later. Everyone is different and looking for their own fulfilment, whatever it is. Be honest, open and as I said state what you want.

There are men out there who don't want to risk fatherhood or feeling sexually inadequate with a younger woman so don't give up.

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No thanks

When having a family is not the driving force in a relationship we can look for different qualities in a partner and look for different things from the relationship - companionship, fun, shared interests.
Marriage need not be the goal and if you want to retain your financial independence you can do so.

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I have not been on any of the dating sites as I am not looking for a new partner, what I would like is to meet someone to go to restaurants, theatres, cinemas with (going dutch of course). Yes I can do this with friends but it would be nice to occasionally have a male companion.

I think some of the sites are about friendship rather than finding a partner for life. It might be worth investigating? Good luck.

i am happily married (50 years next year ) but i love chatting to people in my own age group (75) and i have always been honest about my marriage but ladiesseem to think that we married men are just after sex , pretty certain that if i lied i could get many dates but i could not lie about anything ,
talking with men is ok but i feel much with ladies on the net but very shy and awkward with them in real life face to face situations .
so any of you ladies want to chat with no strings i can be found on skype as >> dedmowsone<<

xx Derek

I see this thread has not had responses in almost a year; however, I just stumbled upon it and am interested. Maybe others will chime in and chat. Internet dating is a bit precarious but very uplifting in meeting new individuals and being social again. I feel dating older in life is so much more fun and relaxing than the dating days of younger years. There is no pressure for starting a family, making it big in business for impression, looking like a fashion model, or being nervous to speak. At our ages, we are so much more in tune with ourselves, know what we don't want in life and what comforts us. However, we still do need to use caution as there are a lot of twisted sorts to online dating.

One relative, one friend and one associate went down the internet dating route. They did this because they thought that at least this way they could save time and effort by ruling out what they did not want. All three had to kiss a few frogs but did meet their prince/princesses. The friend had some hilarious encounters that really should be shared. Her sense of humour sustained here so she says.

Hi Folks

Just enjoyed a lovely day in Stratford on Avon, would have been even more lovely to have had a lady on my arm to converse with and to enjoy the day

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That's lovely DennyFab.
Like one or two others on this thread, I'd like male company for outings occasionally, and for general friendship, but friends who have tried internet dating, tell me that not many men are likely to want that.
My friends seem to be doing a fair bit of frog-kissing, as far as I can tell.

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I was very interested in this thread. It seems that a lot of people 60 plus, both men and women would like friendship/companionship or a partner. Do we expect too much too soon? Online dating is a minefield, but can be another option. The chances of meeting 'the one' is probably slim, but not impossible, as I know people who have met people on sites. Is it not best just to look for potential company and friends...if you strike lucky that's what you are...lucky.
Surely if you go into something. thinking 'all men want someone to look after them etc etc...you're onto a loser before you start.

I have tried them but no luck so far . One became a bit obsessed -everytime I went on line he was there . I had to block him .One I went on a date with I really liked and we chatted and seemed well suited . He just knocked me back when I suggested we meet again saying ,it wasn't meant to be . That was all he said .
If you are quite a sensitive person be prepared to toughen up
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I’ve just discovered this great site.
I met someone online in January and just ended the relationship a couple of days ago. There weren’t any problems associated with online dating, it’s just a convenient way of meeting someone. I was with him for around ten months. He was very intense in the first couple of months, but seemed to withdraw when he sensed I was starting to reciprocate his feelings. I feel he strung me along for several months. It became a lot more casual than it had been. At the moment, I feel dreadful and I’m put off dating altogether because of being so hurt, but, like I said, none of this has anything to do with online dating, it’s just life!

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I have recently joined a dating site and was shocked at some of the messages - they obviously didn't read my profile or what I was looking for. I also found that most guys my age (56) were looking for a woman 10 years younger, tall and slim - its actually put me off!!

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