what's the worst personal comment you have received from a person ?

Very worst ever was an overheard comment my d-in-law's father made about me.
Because of breast cancer back in 2000, when I knew that I was going to lose my left breast, I'd decided that what was best for me was to have a double mastectomy (or, as I said to my surgeon, I wanted a Union job=one out, all out)
I'm slim, knew that I could dress well without falsies -so way to go!
So cut to my overheard comment - I was staying with him and his wife for a family funeral of theirs, walked into the kitchen to hear him say "looking at Alishka makes me sick to my stomach Any man would feel the same"
I tiptoed quietly out of the kitchen, no-one knew I'd heard him.
Bastard.

I feel for you Alishka. I have a similar story. I also had breast cancer. I decided I wanted a prophylactic double mastectomy and had immediate reconstruction. The first time my mum, my MOTHER, saw the scars, she said, 'It's like Frankenstein.'

She never did apologise. At the time, I said, 'Thanks!' and she tried to justify herself. What a cow.

@ GagaJo, that's horrible

Par for the course with my mother.

My "new" MIL, (second marriage) aged 92, "so.... how DO you get out of the bath then?" I was tempted to tell her I got her precious son to wheel in a winch from the bedroom but desisted! I have at least lost three stone since then. No remarks from her about that..every barbed comment that comes my way from her makes my miss my mother so so much.

My mother also constantly put me down and yes, I have had life-long self confidence issues. I was absolutely determined that it wouldn't happen to my own daughter and told her every single day that she was beautiful and could do anything. If she could dream it, she could do it. It just took hard work. She has a lot of issues, but self confidence isn't one of them!

My late MIL never liked me (the feeling was mutual but I was decent towards her), and used to criticise my hair, make-up, weight, ability as a Mum, etc., etc.

She once said I was "barrel-shaped", which was quite harsh. I told her she was ape-shaped........ (and she had very hairy legs so it was true) haha

When I was 10 years of age hot pants were all the rage. I was walking past my neighbours house and she said loudly"you really havent got the legs to wear those have you " I was 10 years of age and I felt miserable. I worried about my leg shape for years after and wore t shirts over my swimwear. Some women just cant help being mean can they. Couldn't care less now.When I got to my 20s I wore hot pants again yeah. Im in my 60s now and dont wear them but I would if I wanted to. You have to be so careful what you say to children it does so much damage to their self esteem

I've always been slim to medium build. Every time I saw my mother (as an adult) she'd always say 'Oh, you've put on weight, haven't you, what size are you now?' I'd reply '12, Mum, still a 12' and get 'No, you can't be!'

You don`t look that old Grandma followed by hugs and kisses.
Dentist said your teeth are good for your age, Consultant said your bones are good f y a.
Hairdresser said you haven`t got many grey hairs have you especially f y a.
So I have now got to the point that before someone finishes a sentence I say don`t say for your age to which they laugh.

When I was 45 I was in a queue at the Post office when a guy I knew who had retired from work asked me if I was collecting my pension as well.

Another time at work I changed office (not job) but got someone else's extension number. I must have sounded very similar to them as folk kept telling me their HR issues before I could stop them. Anyhow I was in the ladies toilet nearby when lady whose ext number it was came out of toilet at same time as someone who had spoken to me. She said you and ... sound just the same. She replied as long as you dont think we are same age. As I remained in cubicle she said I'm surprised she hasn't taken VR and claimed her pension. I was 52 at the time and discovered later she was 50. She never knew I'd heard her but it did hurt.

A work colleague asked if I'd lost weight and preening at the unsort after compliment I answered that I wasn't sure. 'Oh,' she said, 'I thought you had because your bum seems to take up less of the corridor than before.'

Another colleague upon seeing a photo of my soon to be DH said with obvious shock, 'Ooooh he's gorgeous.' Then she paused, looked me up and down quizzically and continued, 'Haven't you done well for yourself.' As if I didn't deserve to be with someone so good looking.

I HAD a friend who said that she had never seen me so fat! Hence we are no longer friends as she wasn't joking and even offered to buy me an exercise DVD. I was going through the change for goodness sake and my weight did rocket! I was depressed enough as nothing would fit and I thought I was going to burst. Thankfully I got it under control but her words hurt me so much.

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We went to a prestigious sporting event with a group of acquaintances. It was pouring with rain and very muddy . We drove there in our almost new mid range car . On arrival one of the couples pulled up in a five year old range rover and looked at our car and said " we saw the forecast today too and thought we would bring our old banger as well .

Just realised how old this thread is .

Thanks for this thread, which really made me laugh.

I've often put my foot in it. When newly engaged I was introduced to friends of my in-laws who mentioned that their son was at a school which was religious and known for being very strict. As this was my idea of a hell hole I asked "oh dear, does he like it"?

DH and in-laws were very embarrassed but the couple simply answerd "Oh yes" and didn't seem offended at all.

granto7

Years ago I was told that if I stood sideways and put my tongue out I would look like a zip

That is awful! Should be funny but certainly isn’t!

After receiving good exam results my Grandma told me, " That you are either clever or pretty."

Annobel

After I'd left my last school prizegiving with a load of prizes, one of my old primary school teachers came up to me and said: 'Well, I'd never have expected that of you!' What a backhander that was!

Similar for me was after passing 8 O Levels all Grade 1 or 2 my history teacher "Well that must have been luck or poor marking.. I expected you to fail most of them including history!"

I took History A level and got Grade A. She didnt teach me for A level and never spoke to me re my A level grade! Probably a good thing after her O level nastiness to me!

After a week trialling contact lenses and deciding not to go ahead and to keep my specs, a colleague said he was glad I'd gone back to glasses as "you do have a bit of a conk, don't you".

My husband (who's a bit on the large side) once turned sideways to let a colleague pass him on a narrow corridor. His colleague said "I don't think that's going to help much".

Not really an insult as such but before I turned 60 the pharmacist said I'd only got to wait a couple of months before getting my prescription for free. At the time, I did not want to be reminded.

A child I was teaching many years ago told me, " I was really, really, really, really old. You must be at least 36." I was considerably older so I took this as a backhanded compliment.

I have also fallen foul of snide comments about my 5ft 1 height. Yet people praise tall people like it's an achievement. It's just genetics. I tell people I am the sane height as Kylie Minogue.

There have been a few- all on GN, never in RL.