what's the worst personal comment you have received from a person ?

“We’d never find you crying in the toilets ‘. Said in anger as I tried to calm anxieties about yet another restructuring
I’d found that team member weeping in the toilets , made cups of tea, reassured etc, or so I’d thought 🌞

In my later 20 s as a new mum I was mistaken as my baby’s GRANDNMOTHER. I was upset but said nothing, but more upset when it happened another time sometime later.

In my 30 s I was mistaken for my friend’s MOTHER by a member of staff in M&S. this time I suggested she not make assumptions because my friend wasn’t my daughter but my friend, who was older than me. ! I felt better for speaking up.

Now in my late 70 s people can’t believe how ‘young’ I look.
Better late than never I suppose. .

I need to do a bit of thinking and sifting over this. As a general rule I only remember the nice things people say about me, but, I have also had a good slew of nasty comments in my time.

The two that stick out was firstly one of several from my paternal grandmother. My sister and I were spending holidays with her when my parents were overseas and I came home from school having obtained my Gold Medal in Elocution at the third attempt and I was over the moon with delight and bouncing around and talking about it. My grandmother looked at me and said: 'Your trumpeter will not die from overwork'. Shut me up immediately

Later on at university, I was very very enamoured of someone, we had been on a couple of dates, when I was told he had said of me 'She would be quite attractive if she did something about her hair'

An ex boyfriend said to me ‘If you cut off the bit between your waist and knees, you’d have quite a good body’.

I am very ‘hippy’ but still ……

We were in Sri Lanka visiting a turtle sanctuary on the beach. The guide pointed out a very pale turtle and said

" That one is an albino. Like you, madam".

So much for prematurely snow-white hair.....

I felt sorry for a work colleague after her husband died and told her if ever she fancied a drink or meal out, to give me a call. She took me up on my offer. On one meet up she said to me 'I go out with people now that I wouldn't have dreamt of going out with when J was alive. No offence'.

This thread started in 2011!

Madgran77

Annobel

After I'd left my last school prizegiving with a load of prizes, one of my old primary school teachers came up to me and said: 'Well, I'd never have expected that of you!' What a backhander that was!

Similar for me was after passing 8 O Levels all Grade 1 or 2 my history teacher "Well that must have been luck or poor marking.. I expected you to fail most of them including history!"

I took History A level and got Grade A. She didnt teach me for A level and never spoke to me re my A level grade! Probably a good thing after her O level nastiness to me!

I wonder if Annobel is still posting.
She posted that in 2011.

Oh I didn't notice! I've probably put my comment on before

This thread began a very very long time ago before I was even a granny!

I can’t believe just how much weight you’ve put on!!!

It wasn't really an upsetting comment because it made me laugh.

A girl at work, known for her ability to put her foot in it or make unwise comments, told me how much she liked my dress and what brand was it (it was an Anne Brookes petite dress - no longer exists unfortunately). I told her and she asked "oh, it's really nice. Do they do anything fashionable?" It still makes me laugh.

My aunt told my Mum that when she was made up she looked very attractive, even though she was really quite ordinary looking!!

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We had spent some time decorating our new house and thought it looked lovely,particularly the entrance hall. My mil remarked ‘at least it’s clean’ Another one was shortly after the birth of our 4 th I was asked by a shopkeeper when ‘it’ was due.

Said to me by a right old buffer, decades ago:"........but when all the pretty girls have lost their looks at least you'll still have your degree!"

From my uncle who told me that I reminded him of King Lear’s daughter, but he “wasn’t sure which”!!! I was horrified and deeply hurt.

silverlining48

In my later 20 s as a new mum I was mistaken as my baby’s GRANDNMOTHER. I was upset but said nothing, but more upset when it happened another time sometime later.

In my 30 s I was mistaken for my friend’s MOTHER by a member of staff in M&S. this time I suggested she not make assumptions because my friend wasn’t my daughter but my friend, who was older than me. ! I felt better for speaking up.

Now in my late 70 s people can’t believe how ‘young’ I look.
Better late than never I suppose. .

outwith same age friend, asked “is yourmother ok with the stairs?”

When I was about 11 or 12 I was one of those selected to do a 'modern dance' for parents and pupils for some special event. We wore our school dance leotards and did movements to a poem as we had practised in class. I was so pleased with myself and felt I did really well. Then an older girl, someone I really admired and looked up to, came up to me after and said 'I really enjoyed your dance. You looked so funny with your little pot belly!' I was devastated and I have remembered that 'little pot belly' comment for so many years. I don't think she meant to be nasty, she was a very sweet girl but obviously didn't think how I'd take it.

My daughter when I asked what she thought of my new top said ' it's alright for you Mother but I wouldn't wear it '.

crimson

Not a personal comment per se, but when I go to the cinema, theatre etc the [oh so young] person selling the tickets asks if we are on any 'benefits', meaning are we pensioners. I know they're being helpful but I wince every time it happens because I know it wouldn't have been mentioned a few years ago. It's worse when I've made a [rare] attempt to look good .

Why word it like that? They just need to ask whether you’re of state pension age.
Or, as I used to ask people in the library when they came in for garden waste bags (half price for over 60s) - ‘You’re not over 60, are you?’
Especially if they pretty obviously were, they were happy to tell me!

sodapop

My daughter when I asked what she thought of my new top said ' it's alright for you Mother but I wouldn't wear it '.

My mother always dressed very well. people used to comment on this to me even when I was a child.

I can remember, as a child aged about 10, my mother came downstairs dressed to go to some social occasion, wearing a new dress.

I looked at her and uttered the words I was never alowed to forget. 'Mummy, you look awful, just like something out of Vogue.'

I did not mean it as a compliment. My mother just laughed - as she said later she was free to take my remark as either compliment or criticism, though she knew that I did not see my remark as a compliment.

When aged 50 a restaurant manager asked my husband and I if we'd like the pensioners menu. I was so deflated that day.

Recently, a ‘friend’ told me there was ‘ ‘ ‘nothing of me’, and I had skinny arms. This is after very recent cancer treatment involving chemo and major abdominal surgery. Both of these have caused weight loss. Needless to say, I was very upset

My mum, who has never ever dressed up or worn make up said to me (all the time) “who’s going to look at you” 😔 I was very young, and really knocked my young teenager confidence 😢

Men and my breasts. At a student 10 pin bowling match, one of the opposing team yelled "get yer boobs out" just as I was about to take a shot.
Another guy, another time, told me he'd seen smaller tits on a heifer!
Then there was the drunk stranger in a pub who just wandered over & stuck his nose down my cleavage & stood there swaying. My friends just stood their laughing!
Then people wonder why I always wear baggy tops???

sodapop

My daughter when I asked what she thought of my new top said ' it's alright for you Mother but I wouldn't wear it '.

That’s daughters for you😖