Am I in the wrong

Sixty snap! MY BH currently isn't speaking to me either.

BH = bloody husband

I once had a similar thing with my DH. I dealt with it.

I am rubbish at secrets! DH depressingly good! He was seriously ill in hospital but things were under control 5+ years ago and we had persuaded DD and her then BF to go ahead with their planned holiday to Australia over Christmas and New Year.
While out there BF proposed and DD rang me to tell us. When I relayed this to DH still in hospital he just said he had know all along as BF had had a quiet word with him before they left ( "asking" for his approval - aaah!) and he had KEPT THIS TO HIMSELF for nearly 2 weeks!
5 years on, 2 adorable DGSs and number 3 DGC on the way and the rest is history!

Thanks for all your comments really appreciated. Cannot seem to let this one pass. Usually I would have moved on by now and forgiven him. This time I am still angry today if not more so.

Don't you think that the most infuriating is for the keeper of the secret to smugly announce that they knew all the time? Real secrecy would keep that secret too.

Yes I agree MiceElf. What does anyone gain by it. I suppose it makes them feel important enough to be told in the first place and smug enough for them to think it matters.

Do you think Soutra that the family wanted you to have a lovely surprise. When you got over the initial shock of your husband knowing and not saying anything.

Once you have told someone something it is no longer a secret. If you really want to keep something to yourself then don't tell anyone else.

I have no trouble keeping secrets. Some years ago, I was privy to the fact that my niece was pregnant but was asked to keep it under my hat. When my other sister found out that I had known and hadn't told her she was furious. Now I find that something she told me had been told her in confidence. It's sad, but now I will never tell her anything I don't want broadcast.

I do find what your OH has done is way off the mark sixty my OH can keep something to himself so much so I think he worked secretly for the CIA in a previous life,whilst I would be fit for bursting if I am told anything but do not repeat until it is safe to do so.Does OH think you never intended to mean his DS and that his DS has a right to know your business ? very much a no no in my opinion.Try not to let this fester into something more serious as not speaking can soon become a major issue not something we should have at our time of life is it.

I am pretty good at keeping secrets. I do not see what the excitement is about knowing something others have asked that you not to disclose.

Work has given me a lot of that attitude.

It wasn't a case of the family knowing anything - the proposal came out of the blue to DD as well. Not so much keeping a secret as respecting a confidence. Not smug at all micelf quite honourable IMHO.

I am frequently told things in confidence, but I occasionally ask if I may share things with my husband if I think that doing so will help me to shoulder a burden or if I think he may have an opinion that would help. I don't encourage gossip and if someone tries to share a confidence with me I can be pretty sharp. If I hear the words, 'I shouldn't really say anything, but...' my usual response is, 'then don't'.

Think you must be more forgiving and a better person than me, Soutra. I know I'd be pretty vexed.