STROKE VICTIMS WIFE

I'm really glad for you both sparkygran.

Oh well done Mr Sparky - onwards and upwards as they say! It's so good to have some positive news. You'll be dancing a jig before you know it!

Does Strictly count Gagagran tonight he watched it and enjoyed it thanks to you both Gaga and Dustyangel support is just so important

How truly encouraging to read about mr sparky's progress!! Every step forwards (with Rollator or not) is also a testement to your patience and perseverance, sparkygran - you've earned those

PS My brain really can spell "testament" it's just my fingers that get it wrong!

I'm lost for words.....all of you caring for DH after stroke are, quite simply, absolutely amazing women. I take my metaphorical hat off to you all.

I've been lucky in so many ways, DH had heart attack at 52 which resulted in having a stent fitted. He still has one blocked artery but had developed a good collateral blood supply so docs left well alone. 20 months after first attack he had a second caused by clotting around his stent. Docs had taken him off blood thinner and he 'furred' up again. He has PVD in his calves as he has partial blockages in groin and behind knee.

That was 8 years ago. Today, other than an inability to walk long distances, he is fantastically well although full of bp meds, aspirin etc. In fact he's so well I have to nag and remind him periodically that he shouldn't be doing certain things!

I just wanted to say that I recognise so well some of the behaviours your oh's are demonstrating. Mine was so very, very angry for months that this had happened to him and, of course, who was the whipping boy for all this anger? You got it in one! I used to spend hours in the loo just to get away from the anger and blame game. It didn't help that he was going through smoking withdrawal either. Fortunately, he was only unable to drive for 6 weeks or I may well have been doing time. I actually cracked and put him out of my car once - it worked though, he was a lot less vocal after that.

Our difficulties only lasted for a few months....heaven alone knows how I would cope in your situations.

You have my admiration ladies

Here`s to all of us women and men who are caring for loved ones bit early I know but raised glasses all round or if you prefer - we sometimes need it!!!!!

Here`s to all of us women and men who are caring for loved ones bit early I know but raised glasses all round or if you prefer - we sometimes need it!!!!!

Here`s to all of us women and men who are caring for loved ones bit early I know but raised glasses all round or if you prefer - we sometimes need it!!!!!

Here`s to all of us women and men who are caring for loved ones bit early I know but raised glasses all round or if you prefer - we sometimes need it!!!!!

Here`s to all of us women and men who are caring for loved ones bit early I know but raised glasses all round or if you prefer - we sometimes need it!!!!!

Here`s to all of us women and men who are caring for loved ones bit early I know but raised glasses all round or if you prefer - we sometimes need it!!!!!

Hear, hear Sparkygran!! for me!!

Sounds like your DH has been through the mill too Katek. Encouraging to hear how well he is doing though. Great to hear about Mr Sparky's improvements too. That is thanks to all your care, encouragement and getting him the help he needs Sparkygran. Take a bow! Thanks for the many glasses of wine too. I needed them. Here's one for you

Thanks Purpledaffodil. Yes, it was a bad couple of years but we're both enjoying our third chance! Fortunately DH has a wonderfully strong constitution so doesn't tend to get pulled down by all the bugs the rest of us are prone to. I have my heart in my mouth sometimes when he does silly things like dig up tree roots or pick up eight year old gc though! He's been discharged from cardiology for 6 years and has very little cardiac muscle damage....more the anclllary plumbing! He feels he's fortunate compared to friends who have had double/triple bypasses in their 50's. I still take my hat off to all you ladies whose oh have had strokes though....much more demanding on your resources than cardiac issues. from the teetotaller here!!

How the heck did I manage 6 posts - ohhhhh so embarrassing and not a drop had passed my lips

Don't apologise sparkygran. I needed those glasses of wine. I shall just spread them over a few days.

Katek I know what you mean about doing silly things. I think they want to be in touch with their inner alpha male. Mine shifted at least a ton of logs the other day and then spent the next two days with a bad back. But it beats him snoozing all day in front of the TV which he has been known to do.

Oh dear cross words have been spoken this morning in Chez Nous DH once again not wanting to visit friends this afternoon and the prospect of repeating the dose soon again same feelings of not being able to communicate properly - he is the only one who thinks this he either forgets we have been over and over this very topic also Physio, Speech Therapist and OT never mind the rehab assistant who is back for a few sessions all see such an improvement.

Afraid I let him have both barrels and there is a subdued air around the place at this moment in time.

Needed to get it off my chest. Having a to calm myself down.

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Take a deep breath sparky - I know this scenario well and sometimes we need to let it out!! Whatever you do, don't feel bad about it - you are human - it is allowed!

Thanks Mishap GN is just such a great place to let fly - and of course we/he had a lovely afternoon the sun was shining and the countryside looked quite gorgeous and he was able to give his thoughts on various subjects - I consider that a success. Am now on the

Without us they would be hermits Sparkygran So it is worth the aggravation to show them there is a world and people outside the safe four walls. Well that's what I tell myself when Mr Purple is complaining about seeing friends! #**#*## aphasia!!!!!

#*#**##* aphasia -just love that Purpledaffodil. We braved the most horrendous weather conditions this afternoon to get to his S&L Therapy Group but apparently it was worth it - me I`m still drying out!!!!!!!!!!!

Certainly is a change of season isn't it? You are a good woman Sparkygran.
Language therapy is like hen's teeth round here so probably worth getting wet for. Happy drying with something cold and wet too

Have just returned last night from an invigorating trip to Barcelona with a friend it was like summertime temperatures of 24 degrees, I have shopped, eaten and imbibed of lovely Rioja so am back feeling good (I won`t mention here our trip to M&S this morning for yet another pair of slippers - about 20 minutes ago I asked very politely if they came up to scratch ((so many pairs over the past few months haven`t)) and have been given the ok to cut off the labels but will have to admit to putting each slipper on my hand and slapping them together and informing Mr S that that`s the end of my patience re slippers)

So back to Barcelona sadly my little legs and ankles are still recovering from all the walking I did but was it worth it YES IT WAS so anybody else out there in the same or similar situation as myself regardless of all the arrangements that have to be set in place I say GO FOR IT. Once my legs feel like normal I`m planning my next escape!!!

All went hunky dory here at home in my absence.
that`s better