After over 40 years of marriage of putting up and shutting up, including 2 years of 'living with the enemy' whilst our house got sold, I am now happily living alone with my two cats. My daughter is very supportive of me and my past and present situation whilst our son diplomatically sits on the fence. I have no desire to cross paths with my ex husband ever again. My dilemma however is how to handle family get togethers. It is our young granddaughter's birthday this summer and I know we will both be invited but I really don't want to go if he's going to be there and I'm not sure how to tactfully refuse. Our son reaches a milestone birthday later this year and I accept that I must go to that celebration. Any advice out there?
