Support for family members cut out of loved ones lives 4

Hello Celebgran
Well sun is out today, Lilly going to the doggie beauty parlour today. I spend more on her hair than mine! I'm C of E Celebgran We were all happy & together on my EstD wedding day too, but then I did pay & arrange it all, no doubt nasty s.I.l held that against me too, as he just wanted to sign the papers in the register office and then go to his local for a 'pint & pie' to quote nasty s.I.l; "and I'll not be buying anyone else's, they can buy their own" that's why I stepped in as I couldn't see my D having a wedding like that.
Think you've missed the catch up smileless The article in the daily Mail is on hold, I've been told, so they could put it in anytime, or maybe loss it, but now my gc ages will be wrong! We are predicted to have a heatwave from today, so look outsmileless we may get as sunny as Florida =-O

Thanks yogagirl hope you right about heatwave.

I contacted mail sadie said article still live whatever that means but no idea when will go to print she will let us know.

I just saw grandparents who's d I law went to oz, so sad for their dad.
They must have had big bust up.

Not got catch up on tv as need connect box to broadband?! So get it on iPad but takes ages get to right bit all adverts missed phone in.

Sorry yogagirl thought you meant candle in church I always lighting them when people die and for us.
Off acquacise then straight hairdresser for cut and roots.
Visiting friends mum today they on holiday in Scotland?!,hope weather better there.

Well if you're about to have a heatwave I hope it's going to last a long time Yogagirl. It's been very hot here, just under 100 most days this last week so we're going to feel a little bit chilly when we return. Dear bro will put some heating on for us if needed.

I do that too Celebgran I always light a candle for my gran who I still and will always miss. She was RC, I was baptised RC but confirmed in C of E mainly because DH wouldn't have been able to take Holy Communion with me in the RC church. Don't know if things have changed now but that's how it used to be.

I responded to the pm you sent me a while ago Celebgran but forget to tell you so. Have a look, I'd like to know what you think.

Well only a few days left now. We leave on Monday and back in good old blighty on Tuesday. Wish I could stay, bring my beloved pets and never go back there again.

Don't say that smileless we would miss you. Sorry if didn't respond to pm will check sap off. We doctors see nurse for health check. Hop bp. Not high like last week whe. Had blood test. Speak later x

Hello ladies I'm back home and feeling a little under whelmed, already missing Florida and looking forward to going back in October and you wont believe this, or maybe you will, we did it again.

Drove to the airport on Tuesday, took the rental car back, went to check in only to discover that we weren't due to fly home until the following day. So, back to the car rental place and back to our villa. Thank goodness it's only a 45 minute drive and we got an extra day by the pool as everything was packed so nothing else to do.

I found it hard this morning, driving out of the village to do some shopping because I was worried about seeing either of them with our GC. Having had a month so far away and not having had to worry about it, I'd forgotten how stressful living just down the road from them is.

DH will collect our babies when he finishes work; I've really missed them and am looking forward to them coming home. The house feels really quite empty without them. We've bought a new toy for our little dog which is a must because he'll be expecting one.

I wish I could say it's good to be back, but I can't. I suppose it's just going to take me a few days to settle back down. I don't know if she's showing yet but that's what I'm dreading the most, seeing her pregnant with another child, another GC we wont be allowed to see.

Sorry for sounding so glum. I should be upbeat having had such a wonderful holiday and knowing we have another one to look forward too. I know I have so much to be thankful for and I am it's just that I want the one thing I'll never have, no not my son, my grandchildren.

How do you explain to neighbours and friends that you are nor wanted of visited? How do you you cope with that void in your life. I am now on my own and it gets too much at times.

Hello ll9 I made excuses for estranged son not visiting until I couldn't anymore as he still didn't show when I had major spine surgery, neighbours rallied round. But I am very ashamed of him.

Can relate to all you say its very painful, as far as I am concerned there is no future for him and I but the worst pain is not seeing my 8 yr old granddaughter...

Sorry that more ladies suffer same pain.

Welcome back smiless is hard for you so close are you still thinking of moving? I sometimes,wish we were nearer Tor but not from what you say
I just wonder how she could ignore us if saw us regularly.

We have mollie birthday soon June 8th

Hey don't let it get to you smiless like me it will always hurt I been edgy lately think cos i wrote to inlaws and her again just to be ignored.

Had run in With new doctor already as Gra leg is awful and they did the someone will ring you thing, the nurse then told him to carry on taking diclofenac a strong p.o.m painkiller. I was furious and rang back when she gave me appt for tonight In a very bad tempered way. Took Gra this evening didn't like doctor at all but he was ok with Gra and diagnosed bursisitis and offered to inject it before our holiday if no Improvement.
Me being me had to complain about the nurse, he didn't like it, said she was experienced and he trained her! I had to say you actually told her to tell
Patients to take prescription only drugs without seeing doctor? Penalties of being married to pharmacist. He was not happy with me and said your are welcome to find a other doctor ! Oh dear not good start hope see one of others if I have to go.

Welcome back smileless I feel the same way when I get back from holiday, as you forget your heartach, but then have it back on your return
lucky leg I change the subject if a friend or neighbour doesn't know about my estrangement. Some know, some don't, I'm going out for a meal tonight with the neighbour that looked after my little dog whilst I was away & although I've know him a few years now, I haven't said a anything about my EstD&S and I'm going to keep it that way, its too painful to tell the story from the beginning again. My close neighbours all know.
Sorry to hear your in the same sad boat chrcol hugs
Celebgran hope hubby feeling better and i will be thinking of you on the 8th, it always hits hard on the day

You v sensible yogagirl I don't go through it all now unless I have to at then start I seemed to want to pour it all out, people don't know what to say, and it is justmupsetting for us. I won't lie tho if asked direct.

Claire coming give,me a blo dry in 10m so better go wash hair, Gra has bursisitis and reckon will need cortisone jab.

Enjoy meal tonight yogagirl we got disco mif Gra can dance that is!

Smileless hope!you settling back be strong xx

Morning Celebgran
Been on 'Scarlet s page,' long post smileless on there too, you should go on, i did send you the link, can send again, just pm me , must dash now as have two yoga classes this morning. Hugs xx

Yes I did look thanks yogagirl I just feel it probably wont help me at moment I desperately try move on rather than keep going through it if that makes sense, o. Facebook there is a closed group for parents healing from estrangement that's v good too without keep going through it all trying to heal as it says,

Hi Celebgran I feel the same, there are so many forums on this subject, that after a while you feel you just need to give your brain a rest from it all! I'm on yet another closed forum on estrangement on FB and it does get heavy as only talk about the sad stories, no light relief as we have on here, chating about every day & nice things too.

Had to take Lilly to the vets this morning, as she seems to be drinking a lot of water, I have to take her back tomorrow early morning for a blood test & wee sample, how I'm going to get a wee sample God only knows lol

Good luck with that had do for Rosie once was not easy running round with dish under her bottom as soon as she saw it stopped!

I am on nice one on f book yogagirl if you interested we can open up but we also chat like on here, couple nice girls and from all over world of course one I know from way back and met about 3 years ago, they all met last month at nice dog friendly pub we called at yesterday the angel In Bury. We did t go as felt fragile. Is v posh place and they welcomed Rosie !

I am v edgy as 8th approaches necklace wrapped photographed before and after wrap and card. So damn hard is t it yogagirl hugs back. Xx

Just did another pos t but internet seems froze cut log. Story short poor Gra went over dentist get filling. Done and got told next wed! I was furious they. Made mistake and e xt wed we have afternoon tea booked only day could go as was Xmas pres from Tor godparents. Is at lovely place we going for lunch and swim on mollie birthday but,they refused to waive date of voucher runsout 25th June I was still all ended well lovely receptionist rang back and managed fit Gra in fri!

So stressful and by then missed Anita club meeting so we we to spa used our free leisure vouchers it relaxed us !

Smileless do t forget we here for you and hope you feeling little better just focus on your lovely husband and good times we know how damn hard it is. Hugs to you too xxxx

Morning, lovely sunny day
I had a walk in the park after Lilly's vets app. Managed to get the wee sample easily! I was surprised :-D Had her blood taken, so just have to wait for the result, hope it's nothing much to worry about. I don't have pet insurance as its so expensive, over £400pa !!

Shame you missed out on the meeting in Bury Celebgran sounded nice, we'll have to do the same. I'll be thinking of you on the 8th I can't even send a card now :'( I did buy cards and wrote in them, then just put them in their gift sacks and I put money in their bank accounts I opened for them, not the same as buying & posting gifts & cards, when you do that you do feel a little connected. Still find it hard to believe my D would keep this going for so long and for no reason!

Hope you're OK smileless and getting back to normal after your lovely holiday in Florida.

Hi yogagirl yes we should all try meet up it would be great!

Glad was easy get sample.

Just had nice dinner out and bottle wine

Hope lily ok we too have no insurance for Rosie due to her she 12 now.

Here's some wine for you and smileless xx

Ps trying hard not to dwell on Monday because it is way too. Painful.
I could cry for England if it let myself, we going out for lunch and swim at nice spa try keep busy!

Posting her card and present tomorrow.

Hi Celebgran
I heard from the vets, they Indicated nothing serious, but sending the samples on to outside lab to double check, which is good.
Hope little Molly gets her birthday present & card from you, but sadly you won't know if she does or not! Try to have a good day Monday, my thoughts will be with you
Thanks for the I'll have it with my Friday night fish&chips :-)

Our turn worry about vets yogagirl as Rosie was v sick thurs night had us up down and was violently sick on patio.

Got emergency appt with vets she was lovely did blood test and was pancreas inflamed. Hap option leave her in o. Drip but we bought her home with solution and vet rang twice, she was v sleepy due to injection, lot better go back this morning.
God I was in state after week I had then that!
Gra work today.
Glad lily ok relief.

Better get wiggle on now take Gra work before vets and 9.40

Sadly no will know hw signs for it as sent it recorded tracking delivery.

Also photograph it for her blog.
So one day she will know hoping at 7 she will run to post fingers crossed.

Ar ! Celebgran hope molly does run to get her post on her birthday, that's what I hoped for my Laila & Jack, but they wouldn't have been able to read it as too young.
Hope Rosie is better today, they are a worry as they can't tell you what's up. Lilly is very well, active and happy, so I'm praying the results come back without anything to worry about.
Nice weekend everyone & you smileless

Celebgran hope you're OK, thinking of you on this painful day
Hope you enjoyed your swim and lunch out and that Rosie is better today

Thanks yogagirl it was horrid day we didn't go out worried leaving Rosie we just got through day best we could Rosie see s fine. Now

Just glad that day over I will. Never get over it yogagirl no matter now long it's been just have to cope with it.

Thanks for thinking of me for you too xx

What's happened to Gransnet? It's awful! Adds popping up all the time, is this what smileless was talking about, no wonder she doesn't come on anymore. Can't set watching anymore, so have to go all round the houses to get to the page you want! Not good!