DD has now moved in with her lovely new partner. He is absolutely fantastic with the children and they adore him.
The Idiot is running out of ways of controlling DD but, obviously, there are still the children. It is now 9 weeks since he saw them. He asked to have them a couple of weeks ago (when it was DH's birthday party). Because the children were looking forward to seeing us, their aunts, uncles and cousins, DD had to warn them that they were going to see Daddy instead and, naturally, they were really excited. DD then asked the Idiot if his girlfriend was going to be there whereupon he told her to f-off and said he wouldn't have them.
Today, he said that he is off work next week and would like to have the children. DD said that in view of the long period since he last saw them it might be good to have them during the day at the start of the week and then have them to stay overnight a little later in the week. Again he told her to f-off! Luckily, she hasn't mentioned it to the children this time.
The Idiot still pays the child support (not through the CMS) regularly.
Is there any where she can go for advice on the best way forward? I think she is doing all the right things but she feels she would like more than the support of her Mum and Dad behind her.
She would like the children to see him and his parents, who have not seen them for (we think) 3 months. She will not take them to see his parents as her FiL put his hands round her throat and threatened to hit her last time she went there.
Or, does anyone know any hit men? 
How simple would it have been to just ask- instead of mentioning gaps, dates, and unpleasant faces. So simple.
Signing out as this is not about me, nor any of you.
But kitty having a horrible time of it on several fronts 
which is just so hard for her.
Just before I go, granjura you will be aware (as I said) that 
is not an " unpleasant face" but a recognised GN emoticon for CONFUSED. I assume you have realised this and imagine that you are similarly aware if 
(*Ana*) and (*ninathenana*) and ( jalima )
Thank you Elegant. I was only being flippant really as dd and the DGC are in a much better place generally and he is a minor irritation most if the time. I didn't mean to cause an incident! But, I'll remember your good advice! 
I don't understand why your DD was willing to deprive the children of being at their grandad's family birthday party with cousins et al, just to appease her ex. But I haven't been following this, so perhaps there is more to it.
Oh! Didn't notice this was a thread with OP from August. More than ever now.
Oh! I see. It was mentioned on another thread. Gj perhaps you could have put something like "as mentioned on the -blah- thread". No reason for a fuss though.
Come back Alea. [sigh!]
Right-o.
There was really no need for this, sadly
Quite right, so why start it in the first place granjura?
Is this an unpleasant face or is it just ?
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