DD has now moved in with her lovely new partner. He is absolutely fantastic with the children and they adore him.
The Idiot is running out of ways of controlling DD but, obviously, there are still the children. It is now 9 weeks since he saw them. He asked to have them a couple of weeks ago (when it was DH's birthday party). Because the children were looking forward to seeing us, their aunts, uncles and cousins, DD had to warn them that they were going to see Daddy instead and, naturally, they were really excited. DD then asked the Idiot if his girlfriend was going to be there whereupon he told her to f-off and said he wouldn't have them.
Today, he said that he is off work next week and would like to have the children. DD said that in view of the long period since he last saw them it might be good to have them during the day at the start of the week and then have them to stay overnight a little later in the week. Again he told her to f-off! Luckily, she hasn't mentioned it to the children this time.
The Idiot still pays the child support (not through the CMS) regularly.
Is there any where she can go for advice on the best way forward? I think she is doing all the right things but she feels she would like more than the support of her Mum and Dad behind her.
She would like the children to see him and his parents, who have not seen them for (we think) 3 months. She will not take them to see his parents as her FiL put his hands round her throat and threatened to hit her last time she went there.
Or, does anyone know any hit men? 
gj said: I so wish I could edit and cancel my comments- but I can't.
That looks like a sort of apology to me.
No need for you to leave, alea 
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annsixty that is a very kind thought but, and not wishing to add fuel to the fire, I don't think there was a misunderstanding except for the very first one where a poster was 
by the resurrection of an old thread for an unexplained reason.
I think too much was read into gj's irritation at the post, and perhaps she was too irritated (I expect she felt got at or embarassed). The expressions storm, teacup, and calm down come to mind.
(Yes, I know even thinking "calm down" is a sin nowadays) ?
I really hope granjura doesn't leave. Won't be the same without her.
This was all such a simple misunderstanding. Made worse by others chipping in.
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