gay/lesbions

My DS is gay, I have never had to 'deal' with it, he is the same person he always was. It's my belief that you find love in many forms and should be grateful for it however it manifests itself, there is a world of trouble out there and love is precious. I also believe that what goes on between consenting adults is nobodies business but their own!

Hi ladybird! Welcome! I'm fairly new here, myself. I think you need to clarify what it is you feel you need to "deal" with? Is it other people's prejudices, as some have suggested? Is it questions from a gay/lesbian GC? Is it your own feelings of shock, disbelief or disappointment?

Don't get me wrong, everybody. I don't think she "should" feel those things. If it were me, I would love and treat the child, just the same. But none of us can control what we feel.

But, of course, we don't know what ladybird is concerned about because she hasn't come back in to tell us.

Ladybird, I really hope you get back to us soon.

I remember the day my brother told me he was gay, it was 33 years ago, I was 21 and he was 24; I cried and have never quite forgiven myself.

I cried because I love him dearly and feared for the prejudice I thought he might encounter, which he has. Sadly there are not as many reasoned, intelligent and un prejudiced people in this world that we'd like to think.

I didn't 'deal' with it at all well in that moment that he told me, I had no idea and because we were and remain so close I suppose I felt as if I should have known.

Perhaps you've only just 'found out' and it's perfectly understandable that you may have been initially taken aback but I think the fact that you posted on here demonstrates your desire to 'deal with it' in the right way.

Whether this person is your child or grandchild, just remember they're the same person they were 60 seconds before you knew they were gay; you loved them then and love them now.