What does your DH or partner do that irritates the hell out of you?

Marelli, maybe your husband has a dairy allergy. I used to have to clear my throat all the time, which was driving me and everyone else nuts, then a Chinese acupuncturist suggested that I might have a dairy allergy. I gave up all dairy products and instantly stopped having to clear my throat. If I inadvertently eat or drink something containing dairy, I know it immediately as I immediately start having to clear my throat again. You can always substitute soya products, which are very easy to come by these days and I find that I can eat sheep's cheese without any problems but not products from goats or cows.

I wish I knew the correct term ( perhaps it's called clearing the throat ) but it's much h much worse than that ! It's that horrible,disgusting hawking back that some men in the street do before spitting. He doesn't spit (perhaps that even more gross )
He does this numerous times on waking and even several times during the night. Yuk yuk yuk.

1. stating the bleedin obvious.
2. Putting things that should go in the dishwasher in the sink 'to soak' (where presumably the washing-up fairy will find them)
3. Putting up the folding plate rack in the dishwasher EVERY time, when I want it down for large pans.
4. Insisting on watching something on TV when I don't want to and then FALLING ASLEEP in front of it - and snoring.

Enough???

oops nearly forgot - sighing - endless endless sighing

With me it is his 'glass half empty' attitude to life. I am a 'glass half full' person. So everything that goes the slightest bit wrong is a disaster. What he would be like if there really was a disaster I don't know.

Oh yes Tizliz - I always say my OH is not so much a 'glass half empty' person as a 'glass with the water hardly covering the bottom' person. It is exhausting. He gets it from his late mother.

Whilst sitting at the table as I prepare to serve supper, he logs onto his newly acquired Tablet and continually grunts as he reads - drives me insane!

He also sleeps on the settee every evening and snores for England - I turn up the TV volume to drown out the noise - then throw a cushion at him in exasperation. Then he complains about the program that I am watching - even though he has slept through most of it - grrrrr.

Retirement is wonderful - but all that togetherness can be too much of a good thing...............

My dear OH drives me mad when he sees me get my key out and then jams his in the door just before my key can hit the lock. He does the same thing when I get change out for car park meters. Mine comes out of my purse: in his goes to the machine! When we were given a green bin for recycling he used to grub around the kitchen waste taking out things I'd consigned to the bin (usually contaminated with food and not in a fit state for recycling). If I suggest something he does the complete opposite. He is an angry ranter and shouts about a whole list of bete noir: the BBC, potholes, weather forecasters, Jeremy Corbyn (anyone who leads leftist political parties really), the NHS, transport systems, other drivers.

However, I have my own faults too and my family generally put up with my eccentric eating habits, my OCD cleaning habits, my general lowish spirits and my habits of solitude. Therefore, I reckon it's all a bit of give and take.

Recently the dear OH had a health scare which might have resulted in my losing him and that showed me, not that I needed showing, how much I would rather have him around.

As to his good side the OH is clever, funny, literate and literary, a good husband and father, loving, a good provider and has a wealth of knowledge on all manner of subjects. He loves Shakespeare and Mozart and cries at sad films. I can forgive the keys and small change.

Granarchist the washing-up fairy lives in our house too. Along with the laundry fairy, bed-making fairy, tidying fairy, cooking fairy and shopping fairy. I draw a line at the ironing fairy!

Snowdrop my DD does not own an iron - her OH works from home and so far she is nearly 40 and never used one!!!!! My admiration for her knows no bounds. Another gripe re OH - he continually back seat navigates. Even when the driver knows the roads better than him. On many occasions he has been threatened with being chucke out of the ar to walk home.

All of the above (had a good laugh reading them.)

When he gets back from his keep fit evenings, he traipses up to the bathroom and drapes his kit and his towel all round the bathroom. That makes me want to scream. I have to go up after him, gather them all up and take them down to the laundry. This is the only one I've confronted him on, but he still persists on doing it.

After showering he uses a plastic wiper to wipe down the glass doors of the shower. With a Clonk - Clonk - Clonk which drives me mad - I crawl into bed curl up under the covers and hold my hands over my ears to stop myself screaming.

He generally only does half of anything - if there's a pile of things to wash up, he'll wash up only a select few (no idea what criteria he uses to decide which ones to wash and which ones to leave). Not to mention that he uses any old water that's in the sink to do it, and then dries them up with the wrong towel. We have 4 bins in the kitchen (compost, normal waste and 2 recycling) - but he only ever takes one or two out at a time. I have demonstrated that even I with my smaller hands can easily carry the bags from 4 bins out at one go.

I daren't say anything any more. Experience has shows that it has no effect except to poison the atmosphere, and perhaps I'm scared what he'd retaliate with. There could well be something I do which annoys him.

I feel very sorry for the ladies who arrive in a coffee shop with their husband and then sit in silence while he reads the paper. That's so rude. My late husband, for all his faults, would never have done that. Going for coffee is meant for chat. It's only if I'm alone that I need something to read and more often than not, I wait till I get home for a coffee if I don't have a friend to chat with.

Indinana I know what you mean about the headphones thing. My OH has his headphones on when he is crunching through his bowl of late evening cereal. I am reading or ippading and the noise he makes really winds me up. He also shouts at the television when he's watching QT and that is when my headphones go on!

Pistachios are driving me nuts.

Here is an almost daily ritual observed in chez Lavande.

1. POUR unshelled pistachios into small bowl.
2. SNAP shells in half.
3. HOOVER or SUCK exposed nut into mouth and CHEW.
4. DROP empty shells into same bowl.
5. REPEAT steps 2-4 at a steady rate until more shell than nuts in bowl.
6. SHUFFLE and STIR nut and shell mixture to locate uneaten nuts.
7. REPEAT steps 2-6 until only empty shells remain.
8. SHUFFLE and STIR empty shells again to ensure no lurking nuts.
9. LEAVE bowl on coffee table to be removed by someone else.

REMEDY:
Where are my nuts?
Someone seems to have hidden my packet of Pistachio nuts.....looks forlorn!

Whenever we get back to the house he absolutely has to be the one to open the front door first, then he runs to the burglar alarm so he can key in the numbers to switch it off.
I have never done this as he is sure I would mis-type the code and set the alarm off.
And who is in charge of the TV remote control in your house? If I have it by my chair when he comes on, he always picks it up and takes it over to the table by his chair. (Clearly I am not capable of switching channels).
I swear he thinks I am five years old.....

Whenever I suggest to my OH that shaving might be a good idea he always comes away with something along the lines of "how come when Beckham doesn't shave it is designer stubble and women find it sexy but when I do it you say I look like a scruffy old git?" My answer is always "..but you are a scruffy old git so go and shave"

How can you all bear it?
I would have to leave all the stuff lying around until it was knee deep, refuse to put dinner on the table if they were 'fiddling', hide the TV control up my jumper and generally try to foil the annoying habits as much as possible!
My mother always said I was difficult to live with!

Mumbling and not enunciating his words properly.
I have many missed conversations because of this.

Yes. And they always say it's you, going deaf.

Ooh. The remote control for the TV is mine, all mine.

Whistling drives me round the bend and dh had done this for the 42 years that we have been married. Being loud, hogging the tv remote.........the list is endless. I'm so glad I am perfect.

Woops should read "has" done this. So I'm not perfect after all!

gillybob I think we are married to the same man (except we don't have an ensuite! I have to clean the sink, mirror and surrounding tiles everyday! Very annoying. I don't mind the noise so much if only he would wipe things down after himself!

mine cant operate a TV remote control, has no idea how to get Sky, he knows where the washing machine is but could not for the life of him operate it and yet, and yet only HE knows how to load a dishwasher correctly - yeah right.

Clipping his fingernails over the kitchen sink & walking away, leaving me to make the discovery; plastering the washbasin with toothpaste when he cleans his teeth...& walking away!

Ha ha! I thought this would be a long thread when I read the heading. As someone said earlier, a lot of the irritations are an age thing. Mine has a few, the main one being being using the remote to open the car when I am already sitting in it having used my key already! Toenail clippings in the living room I couldn't put up with!! It's amazing what a lot of us do put up with though. From another perfect wife!