Was I 'over the top'

You should Booboo.It is time we all stopped being door mats.My eldest son who lives in Australia came home for Christmas 3 years ago.He brought my first granddaughter to meet us.I wasn't even allowed to feed her.I have brought up 4 sons so I have some experience.My granddaughter and I clicked immediately it was wonderful.3 weeks later they went back and it broke my heart.He didn't contact me for 6 weeks and I nearly killed myself with worry.I did try to phone but there was no answer.I eventually emailed him and asked if everything was all right.He said yes and would I like to Skype.Just like nothing had happened.I just have to accept that I am no longer that important in his life.He hasn't phoned for over 3 weeks.Not unusual.I will phone him this weekend and hope he has time to chat.

Thanks Starstella

You are right but I will keep the door open. She is my only child (another thing she blames me for) and we used to be close. I have no choice but to back off because everything is seen as 'controlling'. I sometimes think even saying 'ok darling, I will back off but am here whenever you need me'. is probably a kind of controlling thing.

My heart goes out to you booboo, having been estranged from our youngest son for almost 4 years and allowed no contact with our only GC I know how painful it is, especially when you used to be so close.

I'm so pleased your son's been in touch Coolgran and that you've had a lovely conversation with him and your GC. For what it's worth, I don't think you were over the top either. Our other son lives in Aus., rarely looks at his emails or FB and we have an arrangement to Skype every Sunday unless he or we are unable too.

We always let him know if we're not going to be available and have asked him to do the same. 'If something crops up before next week son, just let us know; email, text or FB' does he? No Do we worry when we here nothing from him? Yes, especially as he's so far away? Is he annoyed to get left a message from his worrying slightly over anxious mum? No, and to be honest I think he rather likes it. I always apologize for doing so and he always responds by saying he'd be upset if I wasn't worried, then he apologizes and says it wont happen again, but it always does.

First of all, yes, they do have very short memories, especially on the extremely rare occasions we want a bit of help. However, having said that, my daughter and I chat daily which is nice. Tend to text son three or four times a week and he always responds. Lucky me I think.

Any relationship is alright until something better comes along.

Not sure what you are getting at?