I hate visiting my mum!

Kudos to both you ladies for being there for your aunts!

Mini, the relatives who live closer must have had their fill years ago!

WendyS So did my OH (she's his Aunt) when he lived up there, but he is obviously looking for ? status

I've just caught up with this thread while sitting in mum's room wondering whether she will wake up and, if she does, will she still think I'm my brother?

Mum seems to have plateaued.

Oh how awful for you kitty

I know exactly how it feels to sit and watch and wait.

It has been just over 4 weeks since I lost my mum and I can't get the picture of her lying there, out of my head. In the last days it just wasn't "her" any more and that is the picture I see when I am lying awake at night, not the picture of her smiling or laughing.

When my grandma died back in September it was different. She had lived a long life and she had simply reached the end. She died looking peaceful and like "herself" and was "with it" right until the last. When I close my eyes and think of her I see my lovely, smiling, funny, awkward as hell grandma.

I was extremely lucky with my husband - he was under the care of our local hospice - whenever he was in hospital the Hospital Team visited him, a Community Sister came to see him at home and was there for me too. I attended a Carer's Skills course and the Family Support Team are there for me. The End of Life Care had was superb and I had so much support. His death was very peaceful and I was there holding his hand. Is there nothing like that available for you in your area Kitty - you would probably need a referral from your mother's GP.

gilly, I'm sure eventually those memories will fade and the best bits of your Mum are what you will remember.

Morghew, it's just a case of waiting for Mum to go now. And, my brothers and I have had a mixed relationship with mum so it's a bit weird. The care staff are lovely and we look after each other too.

Thanks everyone. Will continue ranting again asap! ?