Out of the blue I got a phone call from only son aged early 30's to say they had split. Children aged 2 and 1, amazing DIL wonderful mother to children. Appears pressure on him of two children close together, small house, self employed trying to build a business caused him to in essence not be able to cope.
Text book reasons came out, grown apart, physical relationship non existent, tried to raise it but not really discussed i think. Fly in the ointment, his business involves working with clients who are mainly ladies that lunch. Appears he is in a relationship with someone 19 years older than him, plenty of money, big house, big car, time to drool and boast about a trophy goodlooking, fit lover. Her previous conquest was her gardener apparently. She is a widow.
I could say more, don't want to sound bitter. Can see for him the oasis of the new relationship in the quagmire of the daily grind. As his mum I love him and want to support him, I am appalled, devastated, disappointed etc that he can go live elsewhere, not with the woman just yet, and give me a pile of crap about co-parenting being an amazing opportunity, the children won't lose out etc. From what I can see he never, but niether did my DIL , TALK, about their issues before he opted out.
I am talking to both of them, son very difficult, deffensive appears to have no remorse. A departure from the mature, caring family man i though he was and has appeared to be, genuinely.
I know I have to cope with this, offering support to both, my DIL is a truly lovely girl, she too is devastated. I can't sleep, eat, try to get to grips with it but all I can see are those dear children's innocent faces and it tears me apart.
I am not the first to face this, but it is the first time for me, any comments gratefully received.
Whitehair123 Wed 30-Mar-16 09:10:30
Gagagran Wed 30-Mar-16 09:29:10
kittylester Wed 30-Mar-16 09:42:07
tanith Wed 30-Mar-16 10:14:39
Synonymous Wed 30-Mar-16 10:20:57
mollie Wed 30-Mar-16 10:26:37
Synonymous Wed 30-Mar-16 10:42:23
Chrishappy Wed 30-Mar-16 11:01:35
bookdreamer Wed 30-Mar-16 11:17:33
Luckygirl Wed 30-Mar-16 12:43:37
Stansgran Wed 30-Mar-16 14:01:48
loopylou Wed 30-Mar-16 14:23:40
HildaW Wed 30-Mar-16 14:28:13
Kittye Wed 30-Mar-16 14:33:13
trisher Wed 30-Mar-16 15:04:25
Lillie Wed 30-Mar-16 15:30:17
Grannyben Wed 30-Mar-16 21:17:17
Whitehair123 Wed 30-Mar-16 21:24:52
Zelie1951 Thu 31-Mar-16 13:57:52
mollie Thu 31-Mar-16 14:49:58
Jalima Thu 31-Mar-16 15:29:09
Jalima Thu 31-Mar-16 15:32:47
TriciaF Thu 31-Mar-16 17:18:31
Faye Thu 31-Mar-16 23:11:20
Liz46 Fri 01-Apr-16 05:35:59