Age Difference Marriages

My DH is 8 years older than me and we're still happy together after 50 years of marriage and it all started out as a holiday romance !!

We have a 15 year age gap. Together for 49 years . Age difference is Not a problem when you are 21 and 35 but is much harder when you are in your 60s and he is over 80.

Indeed, middleagedmenopausalmum, my husband is closer in age to my mum than to me and they have some crazy conversations (especially now she is suffering from dementia and remembers the long ago better than the recent) about things that I think belong in history books......including the workhouses and £10 passages to Australia!

A good friend if mine is 61 years old and her husband is 75 years old. She is still very hale and hearty and he is an old man with dementia onset. She doesn't see a good future ahead.

I think it is true that the early years are easy and trouble free but later the difference shows. I have a friend and a neighbour both married to men approx 13 years older than them and both their H' s act like old men (which they are).

My second DH is 16 years older than me, my oldest brother expressed his reservations at the age gap, he said 'but what happens when you are 50!!', but no one else did. His wife died when he was 60.
My first H had an affair with my best friend, we had met when I was 14 and he 15. We had one child and divorced when he was 6. He died of cancer in 2012, had two marriages, which both failed, no other children but plenty of relationships. After the marriages broke up, the one to my BF after 10 months, 2nd one 12 years later --after 6 weeks, he never lived with anyone else.
So if we had stayed married I would have been a widow before our retirement, but most importantly would only have one child (he did not want any more), I have had a good 2nd marriage and two more children, and we are awaiting the arrival of our 6th GC. Two from each child.
I think my hubby would have liked me to retire earlier than I did, but that's the part of the deal, as I see it.
You do not know how life will turn out there is no certainty, just take your happiness without worrying about the numbers!

My husband is 5 years younger than me, 10 years younger than my ex, best thing I ever did

My OH is 16 years younger than me, we've been together 14years and still going strong.

We were happily married for fifty years. He was thirteen years older than me, and as ' Butchie' has said, the difference in our ages mattered not one jot -
until he developed Dementia aged eighty.
At the age of sixty seven, I became his 24/7 carer for the last ten years of his life.
I loved him dearly for more than fifty years; but now, I do regret the loss of my last, few, really good years.

My dad was older than my mum by 17 years, they married when she was 32 and he was 49. After an unfortunate experience of having our grandmother living with us when we were teenagers, with gran fighting with mum and often reducing her to tears, and with no help from mum's brother or sister ( who had spare bedrooms, children left home, houses with bathrooms, which we didn't have, and the wives were at home all day) my two sisters and I made a pact that when dad died we'd share looking after mum. However Mum died first and I had the honour of looking after dad for the next 18 months before he too passed away. Although I had two toddlers, and dad was 79 and partially blind, my two sisters had no children but went out to work, although part time in one case. I was the one who had the lovely kind husband - (one year older than me) who took dad to the pub once a week and listened to his stories (repeated many times). Unfortunately we split up after dad died due to various pressures. My two sisters husbands were 23 and 10 years older than themselves, the older one being only 11 years older than mum. Neither had children but both had a stepson which they have no relationship with. Both husbands died in their sixties, one sister has now been a widow for 29 years since she was 42, the other for 10 years. They were happy with their married lives and shattered when their husbands died. I don't think age matters, both partners need to be happy and confident in themselves, have some interests in common to share and be good friends.

Husband is 18 years younger than me, and we have been together 19 years, married for 16. While husband is PHYSICALLY so much younger, he is the grown-up of the two of us! We have no children - I think I would hate the competition for attention! - and neither of us wants or misses them. I think if he did, that would be a problem, and probably would have meant the end of us, as I wouldn't try to hold him if he needed children, because I want always his happiness, even if that isn't with me. I don't think age, per se, is important - it comes down to the dynamics between the couple, which is as different as people!