Age Difference Marriages

OH is almost 11 years older than me.

The Idiot was/is 23 years older than DD3 and look what happened there.

Hi my OH is 16 years younger than me,been married 14 years and really happy.Age is just a number if your compatible and happy it doesn't matter.:-)

DH is 8 years older than me which seems about write I never went out with anyone of my own age when younger.

My sister's DH was 21 years older than she was. Everyone was very negative about it, telling her she would be a young widow. Ironically, she died aged 54 whilst he is coming up to his 85th birthday.

My own beloved H was 11years older than me and it was perfect for us. I never felt it was too much of a difference and we were happy for 35 years before his death last May.

My DH was 11 years older than me too, Bellasnana. The only real difference we had was our musical tastes, he was a 'big band' and jazz enthusiast whereas I was a teenager in the 60s and prefer the music of that era.

My DH is three years older than me. I guess that is fairly typical.

Mrs P is mature -- I'm not ! does that count ?

My dh is 5 years younger and we've been together 20 years.

My brother was sixteen when he met his future wife and she was 21. They married when my brother was 18. My Mum said at the time (so I am told) that it would never last. My brother and sister in law celebrated their diamond wedding in November, complete with a message from the Queen.
DH is 8 years older than me, ruby wedding this year. Really do not think age matters too much in our experience.

DH is 8 yrs older.
Seem to have merged in age somewhere along the way.
Apart from music. His era was the sixties. He never ceases to tell how much better it was than my era the seventies.

I am ten years older than my lovely man - and at the end of August we'll be celebrating our 30th wedding anniversary. We're closer than ever and have happily defied all the negative predictions about our marriage.

DH is seven years younger. We are second time round, have been together about 24 years and are still happy with each other. Nobody has been as kind to me as he has.

My DH is 9 years older than me. Funnily enough, my mother re-married someone 15 years younger than her, so our husbands are the same age!
The age gap for me and my OH has never been a problem. He is very fit and active and I still have to run to keep up with him.
However, I (we) do now have a problem. He is 66 and has been retired for 4 years. I am 57 and have a full time job that I love. DH is perfectly happy - he does lots of courses, plays badminton and golf etc. and does his fair share of cleaning cooing and the gardening. I can't help thinking though that my work is stopping us doing lots of things - going on holidays, visiting relatives, helping out with GC and elderly parents. Most of our friends are retired and they can't understand why I'm still working. We have relatives in Spain and a DS in New Zealand who we could be visiting.
I know nobody can foretell the future, but I can't help thinking what if something happens to him and we never get chance to do all those exciting things we've planned together?

14 years for us, I have always been drawn to older men - I'm sure there is some pop-psycology in there somewhere as I had a very distant relationship with my father!

There were 32 years between my mum & Dad...when I was born in 1960 she was 28 & he was 60!

Almost twenty with DH and I and we've been married 17 years in October, 18 years together. I wouldn't say I was drawn to older men as such, just that DH turned out to be the right man for me, my soulmate XX

My husband is nearly 13 years younger than I am. We met when he was 23 & I was 35 ( & married). That was 31 years ago & we have been married for 17 years having lived together first for 10 years. It has not always been easy but we are absolutely magic at Pop Quizzes!! We had no children of our own but we have 6 grandchildren from my first marriage who we see all the time. They adore him as he is 'fun'.& gets right down to their level. ( they have a great relationship with their real Grandad too) It was hard for my children who came to live with us- I now that- but we all survived.
My father was 11 years older than my Mum & when she left him he married a woman 28 years older than him ( & only 5 years older than me- now that WAS difficult). They had the happiest marriage I have ever seen & adored each other but she has had a very long widowhood.
I think you need to work hard at it & have a very good sense of humour & it can work well. Any marriage needs work so I don't see it makes a lot of difference personally.

My DH is 21 years older than me and I would say it is a cultural difference rather than an age difference. He grew up during the war and experienced rationing and evacuation whilst I was a product of the hippy era and it has coloured our outlook on and approach to life in many ways. Whilst we do have our disagreements (who doesn't?) I have found his longer life experience to be a major benefit in that there have been a number of occasions when I have been able to learn from his previous mistakes rather than having to make my own! However, now that he has been retired for quite a few years and can't see any pension (light) at the end of the tunnel I do sometimes think it would have been nice to have been able to have a long and shared retirement, although many of my friends are jealous of me having a 'househusband'! Swings and roundabouts I guess.

1st husband the same age, married at 20, too young but did it to get away from control freak father. It lasted just over ten years.
2nd was 13 years older and after 14 years realised he was a control freak - finding the Helen/Rob story line in the Archers a bit uncomfortable, but mine wasn't that bad.
OH is 15 years younger and the longest lasting - nearly 17 years!

As for music I find that OH, DCs can all sing along quite happily to the wonderful sounds of the 60s.

@ mumsyface: I find the cultural differences so interesting and enlightening, for example, when I was at school and learnt about workhouses I somehow thought they were a product of Victorian England having been closed down around that time but to discover that my own DH had entered one as a small child with his mother was a revelation, sad and yet so interesting too. Luckily they weren't there very long and not long afterwards it was closed down.

My daughter was in her twenties when she got together with a man in his fifties.As parents we were initially horrified as he was around ten years older than us! They were very well suited and remain very happy despite this age gap.They went on to have our two beautiful children who are adored by both of the parents and eventually they married.Our son in law is obviously a very old father and perhaps can't do the things a young Dad would do with them ,however his love care and patience makes up for that .He truly is an excellent husband and Father.

My first foray into marriage (I was 23) was to a man 14 years older, only lasted a few years but due to the fact that he was a drunken waster more than the age gap. we split when DD was a bit over 4.

Number 2 husband is 5 years older and we've been together 17 years. He's my favourite so far!!!!!

Actually I don't think age matters at all, it's more about the people involved.

My brother's wife is 13 yrs younger than he is, but, despite the age gap, they seem very happy together as he is still very fit in his mid seventies, plays tennis, loves Scottish dancing, walking etc and is often away to the sun, so she is well cared for, despite being a nurse herself.