Maccytee1955
I don't have any 'motive' or secret agenda involved in my worrying about my son.
He's an only child, and although he's very sensible, and more than capable of looking after himself, perhaps him being my only one makes me feel a little more clingy.
He knows I worry, so for years he used to send me a quick text whenever he got anywhere 'distant', no words, it was just a 'X', but it meant I knew he was safe.
I'm also an only child, my mum lost four babies after me, so she was understandably a bit of a 'smother mother'. This has probably influenced my dealings with my son, although I'm not a patch on my mum in the 'smothering' stakes.
He now has to, at times, drive the length of the country to see clients, and although I worry, and he knows that I do, we've broken the 'text me when you get there' habit.
I never worry about what he's doing, but I do worry about the unavoidable elements, sickness, accidents, crime et al.
I suffer, and have done for many years, from clinical depression, and maybe this also makes me worry more.
I may have come across as being judgmental, and for that I apologise, but you've been pretty judgmental too.
Let's face it, some of us are just born worriers, and some aren't, it would be a very boring world if we were all the same!