I have a daughter in law who will not give and inch when it comes to Christmas. In the 10 years she and our son have been married we have never had a Christmas Day meal with them and our grandson. We ask them each year but she insists they want to spend the day at home so our grandson can play with his new toys. But she has accepted invites to her parents. Last year she invited them to their house for Christmas lunch. We have never had an invitation. I don't know why. She and her mother seem to organise Xmas months in advance without even considering us. She has a brother with family and they spend Boxing day with all her family nearly every year too. We never get a look in. I feel unable to tackle her head on and our son doesn't see it from our view. We only have one grandson and her parents have 3 who are older. If we were to tackle the problem we will be made to be the ones trying to cause trouble but we are just wanting to be given a chance to spend Christmas with all our family. any ideas?
How much do you spend on yourself?