In many families it isn't reasonable for Christmas to be "shared" or "alternated".
When I was little, we never saw Dad's parents at Christmas. It's 360 miles from where I grew up to his parents' home, and the weather was often poor (snow, and lots of it). My parents didn't feel safe driving that distance with six young children in winter. So we went for Easter.
We have never spent a Christmas with my ILs. We are in Canada and they are in the UK. DSD and I only get two weeks off at Christmas. Hubby only gets two weeks of vacation for the entire YEAR. Plus DSD spends Christmas Eve at her mum's (part of the custody arrangement). Not to mention flights at Christmas are very expensive. It simply isn't feasible for us to be there for Christmas.
Clinging to Christmas being all about THE day and insisting on "fairsies" is likely to result in animosity and an unwillingness to spend ANY time together at Christmas.
The Republic of Ireland and their tensions with migrants.
Good Morning Monday 29th April 2024
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