Should I be getting into all this stuff again ??

At this stage I think he is just looking for a friend - I would go (but make sure you go dutch so he doesn't think it is a date). He could be having the some worries as you about the meeting!

Exactly what sunseeker said! Enjoy it for what it is now! And let us know how it goes.

If it improves you life, if it gives you something to look forward to the for heavens sake do it

Can't you tell the suns past the yard arm.
you= your
the = then

One more thing, make him pay, your company is worth more than you realize.

I think the same as the others. Some say the best relationships start as friendships, you do not have to do anything you do not want to. Really sounds like the start of a really good friendship, cross any bridges when you reach them!

It sounds to me as though you could both do with some companionship and if you get along just let things develop naturally and they will if its right for you both. Take it easy. Good Luck with it.

Just enjoy his company. Don't overthink this!

lucky Yes , you have hit the nail on the head . I do overthink things .
You have all said what I wanted to hear , it is just a friendship and if things change it will be because I want them to . Still very scary though !

Overthinking is something I am guilty of like all the above posts say enjoy each other company and just enjoy how you make each feel

Whoops .... make each other feel

Do you feel comfortable with him? Is the time spent with him fun? If so, then why spoil a lovely friendship by worrying about the 'what might happens'. Enjoy today.

However, unlike a previous poster said, don't expect him to pay for everything. It's not nice or the right thing to do. You wouldn't expect a female friend to pay for everything.

Maybe you could keep future meets to daytime, coffee, lunch, art gallery or museum. Meetings in the evening; dinner, cinema, pub, seem to be more like dates.

Companionship for you both sounds a good idea.

Just enjoy his company and for the time being meet him with the same expectations you would have of a female friend.

I agree with those who have already said to pay your way. If it feels a bit akward to divide the bill then insist on paying the next time you meet.

I haven't posted on here before but I read comments with interest. Why not be honest with him? Say that you're not looking for a relationship at present and that you feel it is probably too soon for him to think about a relationship. So how about we just be friends, each pay our own way and see how it goes. Try not to be a crutch for him whilst he gets over his wife. Unfortunately the person who is there to help them back on their feet tends to be discarded as they remind them of the unhappy times they've been through. Then someone else benefits from all your hard work. Keep it casual, coffee/lunch/a walk. Don't expect too much from him & look after yourself to try to prevent being hurt.

You can't pre-plan a relationship. Carry on. Have fun!

Take it slowly and enjoy having a nice male friend to meet for coffee, dinner and maybe theatre and films. You are both finding your single selves again and there's no need to go any further or faster than you both want.

I would say continue to meet up with him if you enjoyed yourself and he would like to. There is no reason for both of you to deny yourself pleasant times together and it doesnt necessarily mean you will be 'dating' now or in the future. That will be for both of you to decide. I have a male friend who I meet for lunches and coffees on a non-romantic basis and we really enjoy ourselves. A year or so back we discussed whether we wanted to take it further and decided we didnt, so we both carry on with a lovely friendship which enriches both our lives.

I'd really like to have someone to meet for coffee. Let him know that you're not necessarily looking for more than friendship. Enjoy your meetups & see where they take you.

I think hooking up with an old friend sounds great op ☺
I would relish a bit of excitement ?

I think the majority of the posts are right. Keep it friendly, pay your own way and I think I agree with J52, make it daytime meets at present. Also I wouldn't do the " too soon for a relationship" bit yet! That suggests you have thought about it! You can always go into that if he seems to be steering that way! Keep it friendly and enjoy!

Go for it - enjoy his company, see how it develops, it's lovely to have male friend you can share things with but don't push it or let him try to push you into something you don't want.

I have a male friend, known each other for nearly 30 years, we keep in touch on Facebook & occasional phone calls, meet occasionally & have great fun when we do, we live 300 Miles apart

I have another Facebook friend who I have never met but we have long conversations (bit like the old days of pen pals), we will meet some-time I'm sure - will it lead to anything? I don't know!!!

I feel terrible as no one else has had this thought (or at least commented on it), but I have been divorced for many years, tried online dating on and off and it has never worked out. And ONE of the reasons it hasn't is that some men have the ability to lie like rugs, - you would not believe the lies some can spin! You see women getting taken for money and all sorts (Fortunately I am too poor to get taken for that scam!)
All I'm saying is, do you have any proof that the man's wife is actually dead? The line "...lung disease that eventually killed her in her sleep" just rings bells in my ears.
Paranoid?? Maybe. But I prefer to check things out before I believe them.

Treat it as the friendship it is and take your time. If he wants to take things further and you don't that's fine just say no.

He is not too worried about his vulnerability because he has stepped out of his comfort zone to meet with you. I am more worried about your vulnerability. Please don't invest too emotionally too quickly,

AS others have said various ways. What exactly do you now a about him that is accurate? But nothing ventured nothing gained. Proceed with caution and sense.