Should I be getting into all this stuff again ??

f77ms whoa there, you are way ahead of yourself. He has just lost his wife and you and he have met for coffee and a chat FULL STOP Take it for what it is and enjoy it Dont book the church.

Companionship

F77ms I also find myself in a situation not so dissimilar to you. I had no intention of ever changing my single/independent status but fate has other plans for me. A man has come into my life and very slowly we are becoming very close. I have had sleepless nights and had to really examine very closely is this really what I want for myself and I have to admit that yes it is. So I'm not fighting it but letting it happen and come what may. And I'm really enjoying the warmth and friendship that is brewing between us. Still cautious though as it's still relatively early days. So I wish you good luck and yes I always insisted on going Dutch.

Thanks for all the lovely replies.
Just to clarify a couple of things , when I first got in touch on Face book there were lots of comments from family about the death of his wife so I am positive that this is the case . I agree so much about meeting in the day time and going Dutch , I am used to my independence so would not want a man to pay for me anyway . I feel a little more confident since my OP , and we have spoken everyday since (online) I have told 2 of my 4 children , the 2 that I think will be the most OK with it, the other 2 can wait a little longer to see how things go . Lovely to hear that you are in a similar position Martha and thanks for the luck . It may seem like I am jumping the gun, it is only one meet up and I really intend to take one day at a time but it really is nice that someone enjoys being with me and the compliments which he lavishes on me are such a confidence boost at my age !

Have a great time

We know a lady in her seventies who has a gentleman friend and they go on holiday together. She is very upfront and insists on single beds as 'there will be none of that nonsense'. It seems to work for them and they have good holidays together.

I agree with schnackie, how you doing? Done all that you have and my goodness the men,s excuses are beyond far fetched. Owner of own chartered boat, fell between the boat and quay could not contact you for a while. Car transporter driver finished my mileage quota. Needed rest. You name it I,ve had it internet dating. Never again, just having a ball enjoying my own company and just love gransnet❤ xxto you all

If you've only met up once, aren't you jumping the gun thinking he will want to take it much further? Like some others here I think he just needs a friend at the moment and by the sound of it, so do you. Not all relationships between men and women have to be sexual so go out with him and enjoy it for what it is.

My best friend died early last year and within 3 months he had a lady friend also in her 70s to meet and spend time together. They are getting on so well its lovely to see and both pay their own way for everything. Good luck and take enjoyment from his frienship

Thankyou all who replied , it has helped me get thing in perspective . One date does not a relation ship make ! I will just enjoy the time we spend together without any expectations .