New year, new life ahead!

Well done madaboutbooks. You're well shot of him and you sound fully able to build up your new life.

Well done you belong to a strong band of women who have risen from the ashes

Good luck for a happy and fulfilling future xx?

Well done and Happy new you

Thanks again, all; just been reading the most recent posts.

Still no response from him to my solicitor's requests (made on 28 December). He entered the house last week (he knew I'd be away for the day so took it upon himself to come along). Discovering I'd had the locks changed must have enraged him because he called out a locksmith and changed them again so he could get in. When I got back home he'd left a smug note on the front door letting me know the new key was with the neighbour opposite. Well, let me just say this was like water off a duck's back! Of course I reported it all to my brilliant solicitor that night and received a prompt response the next morning. Suffice to say, if he attempts to enter the property again my solicitor will advise me to apply for a non-molestation order. He's been trying all sorts of ways to get to me - not directly, but via others - but I've just ignored it all. Too busy getting on with my life, still sorting finances, paperwork, etc. but also organising my new social life.

Surely he can't be doing himself any favours with such behaviour?!

Got to go!

What a cheek he's got!Keep strong.

Dear Madabout, the previous respondents here have covered your situation beautifully. However I found the business of the locks being changed back by your husband rather scary. May I suggest that you get internal bolts fitted to your external doors without delay so that you are secure when in your home. Best wishes for the future.

Can never understand why they think they're going to a better life and then won't just sod off. Possibly life isn't quite like he thought it was going to be. Oh dear!

So pleased you have a good solicitor as mine protected me from the worst excesses of my ex's behaviour.

Meanwhile you get on with being amazing! xx

Hi all, quick update to say that I changed the locks again and he has now been told that if he comes here again and tries anything similar then I'll be applying for a non-molestation order. That will have enraged him!

After dragging his heels, he has now admitted the adultery charge and has agreed to pay a proportion of my costs. He saw my unreasonable behaviour statement and must have been so shocked (well, after all, he couldn't really have shared the details with his new 'love') that he said he'd contest it if I went along that route. My solicitor advised me to pursue the adultery line so as not to prolong the process unnecessarily. I'm not sorry I put a statement together, however. He knows as well as I do that every word was true and that I could have cited many more examples!

Apparently, he's now using social media to try and justify his behaviour to anyone who'll listen! Yawn!

I'm just getting on with my life. I've managed to get through January and I'm hopeful that a new month will bring better things - AND it's a step nearer to being rid of him for good!

Hope you're all well.

Good to have update. Well done and stay strong.

I'm sorry, glad he's past history. You deserve better.

Glad to see this update, madaboutbooks! Your x is an idiot but you're holding your own very well. Good for you!

Can't believe we're almost at the end of April! Thought I'd just post to say that the decree nisi came through a few days ago. Still a way to go, but I still feel positive about my future. Got some more paid work, so am pleased about that.
My solicitor and I had sight of soon-to-be-ex husband's financial statement a few weeks ago. What a joke! Many sections left blank, no details of new partner's income or assets and no signature or date on the form! My solicitor says no way will the district judge accept it so he will be ordered to do it again properly by a given date or face financial penalties. No idea why he's stalling in this way, probably just being wilfully obstructive.