Living with someone who is depressed

Having lived with my DH through several deep depression bouts which was finally diagnosed as Bi-Polar ( he was mis-diagnosed as having clinical depression for years!) I am in total sympathy with you.
It is very difficult & you never really know what each new day will bring.
Please do get some help for YOU. My doctor was excellent & I saw someone who specialised in people living with people with depression- it really helped me. I was offered a place at a group too but by then I felt I could cope. It was just good to know I wasn't alone & there was something out there for me to let off steam or have a good cry or whatever I needed to do.
Believe me there are so many people with these crippling illnesses & they all have people like us who are dealing & coping with it.
Talk to someone who is not personally involved & has seen it all before- it can only do you good.
Hugs!

Happy 60 th . for yesterday.

Being clinically depressed is not the same as being down in the dumps. It is an all consuming condition and even the person who has it cannot explain why they are feeling that way. So sorry for both of you. It is sometimes triggered by a traumatic event in your life. The thing my doctor seemed to think triggered mine was the death of a loved one.

Make sure your OH takes his medicine because it is important. Hope you are both feeling better soon, although I know it can take years to actually feel you can face the world if you get it.

It is not a condition you can 'snap out' of. The problem being that it is to do with hormones etc.

Happy 60th. Not so bad was it! Think of it as starting a new chapter in your life.

My husband suffered bouts of depression all his life put down to experiences during the war when he was wounded in Normandy which caused progressive deafness. I had to be strong.. he was always happy walking in the countryside or playing golf.

Bijou I'm not surprised your husband was depressed after his experiences and health problems.
My Dad was similar, he also loved golf.

seasider - a belated Happy 60th from me too. And I hope you can remain cheerful and not be pulled down by husband's low moods.

Thanks so.much everybody for the birthday wishes . Everybody has been so kind and generous. Thank you Roger for all the information it is very useful. DP has started counselling but actually seems worse. Yesterday DP was niggling all day. At 11.30 last night he announced that he thought we should separate. I was so annoyed I just said right ok! I refused to have a serious discussion at that time of night and he has not spoken since . How can I make life changing decisions with someone who is mentally ill? I feel sorry for teenage DS who is upset by the situation and the way his father speaks to me .

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Slightly off topic but some replies have included information on Vitamin B12. Some experts have found that some people diagnosed with depression have, in fact, a serious deficiency in Vitamin B12. There was an excellent article in the Daily Mail 11.7.17. These experts are calling on GP's to test for this B12 deficiency.