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Dear 0612 there are lots of useful suggestions above. You say your husband is very content so perhaps the 'rough patch' is a reflection of your own 'low mood'.
It may sound banal but a gratitude inventory can be really useful in such circumstances.
Hopefully you are both in good health.
You can afford holidays
You have each other.
Don't ever take that for granted.
Things can change in a second.

I have a friend who thinks that our relationship is in danger because OH goes off to Spain sailing and spends several long weekends away each year showing off his very rare car ( built in 1937) We have no problem with these arrangements, why do people see a problem if your not joined at the hip!!
We spent 2 days in Whitstable this week which the OH arranged. He knew he was safe with this as he had seen the cottage on a trip to visit his daughter, otherwise i sort hotels.

kwest, I fully agree with what you have said. We have had a chat about things & have come to agree with how to move on, I also showed him the replies that were on the thread, we had a giggle about some of them, he is not convinced though that DH means 'dear husband'..... Bottom line is that I am not alone in organising all of the time & it seems to be that we women do it better, he reminded me of the time he booked a weekend away in York for my 30th, the hotel was horrible but the pictures looked lovely in the brochure, so I think maybe we should do it together.

I just go out and find something I like doing,in the last five or so years I have had many hobbies and interest,made loads of friend, never short of invitations etc.at moment its ballroom and sequence dancing, go to afternoon tea dances. People are very friendly and welcoming, and willing to show the ropes. I love it.been married for30 years to a hubby who likes watching TV most of the time and is devoid of conversation since retiring.so ime pretty fed up of asking if he would like to do anything. My advice is to go it alone if you can.there is a life out there!

Thank you for your input 70andcounting, I quite agree with what you are saying.