Grannygrace sorry to hear you do not see much of your DS, but as you do see him, then that is not estrangement, do you hear from him on the phone? If you had had beloved GC ripped out of your life you may well feel different about the inheritance. I have put in my will that even if we were to be reunited, my will stays the same. 5yrs on, I really cannot convey the pain in my heart, daily, hourly pain 
Thank you Luckylegs 
Just a footnote to my last post [which I now can't see as I'm on prev. page reading more posts, thought I was going mad or lost the last post, till I saw I was on page 25, still to see page 26] enough waffle 
Anyway, I have stated that in my will, as even if we were reunited tomorrow, the pain would still be in my heart, the 5yrs of destruction still there, the special bond I had with my precious GD would not suddenly vanish, I would have to rebuild the relationship with my DGD from the point of my being a stranger to her The damaged done to my ND will last a life time. I've yet to ask her if she got any 'happy birthday' messages from her brother & sister, but I know the answer to that for her!
Bibbity well said x
My ND's wedding photos have a big gap in, were her sister & brother, niece & nephew should have been and she said [only to me] that her wedding day was spoilt due to them not being there Her brother would have given her away, her sister 'maid-of-honour' and little L&J bridesmaid & paige-boy. The photos will be seen for generations to come, with the gap!
Grannygrace Do you see your DS at family gatherings, weddings, special birthday parties, anniversaries etc?
My estD&S do not attended any of these, I do sometimes think 'if only I could have a glimmes of them, just a glimmes'
I do realize it is still a very painful situation for you Grace and one you would dream & wish to change
Off to work now, yah!
Just in case I don't get on here later;
Very best of luck to you Celebgran on your op tomorrow. You'll be sitting up in bed drinking your cup of tea [cuppa] before you know it, the op all in the past and then just to recuperate at your leisure pm me your email add and I'll send you a nice e-card xxx
Your DD's birthday celebrations sound lovely Yogagirl
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I'm not a lover of photo's especially if I'm in them. We have loads of course but the only one we have on show is DS and his lovely wife on their wedding day. It was taken without them realising so neither are looking a the camera and those are the ones I like the most.
A couple of months ago I was shown a pic of DS, Dd.i.l. and our GC taken at Easter when they'd gone to visit ES. The GC didn't look anything thing like I thought they would. I still remember the eldest the way he looked when we last saw him aged just 8 months, and of course have never really seen the youngest at all.
Photo's can tell their own story I think. The gap in your DD's wedding pics due to the absence of her sister and brother Yogagirl and for me, the smiles on the faces of DS and Dd.i.l. in that photo I saw.
There's virtually no contact between DS and ES now. They used to skype regularly and chat with eldest GC but have never done so with the youngest. The smiles, not from the children of course, were too smiley; there was a falseness, a trying too hard look about them.
One for ES's family album perhaps. A rare photo for those C to see of themselves and the only members of their father's family that they'll have ever met.
'A picture paints a thousand words' sometimes by what it doesn't show and sometimes because of what it does.
Yes it was Easter this year that our DS saw his brother Luckylegs and no, you're not prying. As for your other questions I really can't say for certain as we very rarely discuss his brother with DS.
We still have friends living in the village who see our GC and say they seem to be happy. They see the physical change in our ES, now really quite overweight apparently and looking as if he has the weight of the world on his shoulders which is so TBH I'd rather not have details.
As for our GC TBH unless any information were to come from our DS I'd rather they knew nothing at all as I dread to think what they may have been told already and may be told in the future, to explain our absence from their lives.
Sparkly not sure how I'd have handled that situation. I'm pretty sure my response would have been 'well he'd better not come then'. You're a better person than me that's for sure I may have been able to ignore my ES but not my GC.
Luckylegs I think if we went out to Australia for 3 months our DS would head for the hills too
. Only thing in our favour is that there aren't any in Perth or for miles and miles around.
Sparklygran So very sorry about your grans funeral, what a terrible thing to go through, how can our once DC be so very cruel. }}}HUGS{{{ I wonder what your GC will think, when they are grown and learn that story, which they will!
I watched 'Who do you think you are' and the emotion for grt. grt. GP, that have long pasted, is amazing, so just goes to show the generational family pull.
I'm supposed to be getting ready for a party I keep missing lovely invites as once I sit down I don't want to get up again , my night out is a night in 
Owing to my work in the evenings. Am I the only one??
OK Nelliemoser ;
Sorry mumofmadboys Seems I was out of order, suppose sometimes it hits a nerve, where others don't see it
grannygrace, I agree with you, I like equality. You do see you children, just not to your amount you would like. Our estate, any we can't spend now, is equally divided in trust to all our DD, GC and GGC.
While not at a point to do otherwise, as everyone is very content with all circumstances, I like to think we would stay the course.
Smileless2012, lovely your children are not estranged to each other!
Celebgran, Good Luck with the surgery. After, please do not lift other than what you are allowed.
Smileless I'm sure my nasty s.i.l has told my dear little GD, that I'm dead! She would have asked where I & her aunty where, as we saw her all the time. The worst emotion a human or animal can feel is grief and that was inflicted on my precious little GD & GS 
My nasty s.i.l screamed at me in the court car park, that I would never see my beloved GC or D again and they would not even be at my funeral, so my family will be spared Sparklygrans ordeal!
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