My son is being hard on me

Holidays? suspicious mind here. Just a thought.

You have already been given lots of very good advice, but I would just like to add another point of view.

Most of the answers are from people who rightly consider a ten year old a child, but he is getting to the pre-teen stage and these days even 10 year olds are quite well informed about human sexuality, but not old enough to really know what it is all about. They are, however, old enough to be embarrassed at the thought of Mom or Dad "doing it".

So your son may be quite horrified at the thought of what dating involves.

As the others say, go slow. If or when the new relationship looks like becoming permanent, you can take the next step and introduce your son to the lady, but not before, as the others also suggest.

Giving the benefit of the doubt, Auntieflo

Possibly a case of Hope not being lost until it smacks you in the face that it really is. Keep talking and listening. Wish you luck.

Hi David, he got upset because he now feels threatened that you will want to spend more time with your new partner and less time with him.

The tricks are to firstly let him know how much you love him and make him feel secure and secondly and ONLY if its 90% sure that your partner will be hanging around for a good while, get him to see what you like about them and hopefully he will understand things from your point of view.

David your son is not being hard on you, you are being hard on him by even thinking that he is the problem in this situation.

Every child of separated parents, whether he can remember life with two parents or not, deep, in their heart of hearts, dreams of their parents being united and giving them a home with both of them. When one starts having new partners or remarries it reminds them that this will never happen. Be gentle with him

Your son is upset.
He is not being hard on you, how harsh of you to think so.

Under no circumstances, Lie to him, as suggested, you can't trust a liar, ever. Spend your times alone with him, go gently, time is on your side. Introduce your lady friend, if you are in a stable relationship, otherwise don't. In time he will accept someone you are serious with and she will be part of your lives, not the other way round. That wonderful bond you have is precious and will last him all of his life and
your lady friend would want the best for you and if handled with sensitivity, she could be very important to your son too. He has to trust you, like he does, to lie to manipulate a situation would result in him questioning whether anything you say is true, but I am sure you have too much integrity fir that anyway. He will be fine, you have his best interests. That precious bond you have is worth more than gold.

Hello there... Having been at the receiving end of parents with new partners I wild absolutely agree with the others who say 'go slow'. Id go as far as to say perhaps completely keep them separate. Your son may have experiences at school of other kids 'having girlfriends' and even at 10- this can cause mini riots in terms of a relationship meaning that friends are ignored/ left out etc! He might be thinking the same. I personally would avoid talking about her, taking phone calls from her etc when he is there- Or showing him in any way that your time together is compromised by another person.
If in 6 months you are still dating then perhaps meet up- but take it slow and good luck.