Husband can’t cope with new dog

Bumblebee Harsh people? Your post is one of the harshest on the thread. Read the OP's posts again - she and her husband have trained 9 rescue dogs in the past.

Thanks Elegran - I've just caught up with this post. I said earlier that the most difficult dog I ever had is now my younger dog aged 5. He's been a real challenge, despite arriving as a carefully chosen pup and being well socialised, trained etc. If I hadn't had experience of rescues, fosters and other dogs over 45 years, I'd have given up. The OP has asked for and been given lots of advice. It's up to her what she decides to do. We all sometimes find ourselves in situations we wouldn't have chosen and we can only do the best we can.

Crumbs. No one deserves that bumblebee. Obviously you have a sting in your tail. Having said that I think ruthiek has explained that when they took on the dog all seemed well so she and her OH certainly don't deserve your comments. People do things from the best of motives that then go wrong.

Bez1989 I didn't mean that the dog was in any way the 'last straw' but that this had already been reached. It is often only when things start to get better that we allow ourselves to 'not cope'. I thought the answer was to look after the OH but really what do any of us know. Only ruthiek and her other half really have enough insight to make a decision.

Ruthiek, whatever you choose, it must be right for all of you.I wish you luck and best wishes, let us know how you get on.

I honestly can't understand the decision between dog or DH esp as he is ill? When my dear sister's husband was suffering a terrible degenerative illness, their/his dog developed all sorts of lumps on her body. My sister walked her to vets, explained what was going on with DH and that, when the time came for dog, she needed help and support. Sure enough, their DS2 came to stay towards the end to support his dear Mum and one day, my dear sister said, it's time-she could no longer cope with dog as well, so their DS2 walked dog to vets and left her there to be euthanised. No contest IMHO