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Marriage over on wedding anniversary

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Deni1963 Sun 12-Nov-17 09:23:10

My husband of 6 years was an alcoholic when I met him and stopped drinking after 2 years in 2008.
This year he is drinking again, and this week told me he was going to a meeting in London and would be done by 9pm.
He disappeared basically for 3 days, staying in hotels, sending me abusive messages and texts and yesterday was our 6th wedding anniversary.
I can't go on with it. The lies, abuse, constantly hiding his phone - and basically telling me everything is my fault. So I ended it yesterday.
Feel very sad.
And tomorrow is my birthday.

Tallyann1 Tue 14-Nov-17 15:28:28

What can we say but sorry and send love and hugsflowers...tomorrow is the first day of the rest of your life xxx

Lorelei Tue 14-Nov-17 22:35:22

Denil, I hope that in time you will come to view this date as the anniversary where you got your life back and started a much better time in your life. Stick to your guns and you will soon accept that your ex's alcoholism was his look out and you are not in any way at fault. Here's hoping you allow yourself the chance of a much happier future - good luck.

Starlady Fri 17-Nov-17 11:45:36

Bravo and (((hugs))) Denil! In time you'll see you gave yourself a great birthday present!

jeanie99 Thu 23-Nov-17 17:43:13

Sometimes making a decision is very hard but you have made the right one.
Get yourself some good legal advice before doing anything.
Then
Look to the future and a better life, best of luck.