My son is getting married this year in August - although his partner and himself have been living together now for almost 10 years & have three children. I can say I have never felt close to my son’s partner but I am fortunate I live very near so do see my grandchildren as often as I can - always through my son arranging what best time for me to ‘pop’ up to see them or I make arrangements to have them sent over to me - i am and have always been polite to DIL but always feel I am walking on ice with her - she can be very fiery & controlling. At times in the past their relationship has been quite volatile but thankfully they are a lot better the last couple of years. I have known her mother since my childhood and am in fact best friends with her sister. DIL and her mother spent a couple of days organising the wedding and picking the dress etc etc - I honestly thought at least one of those days I would have been included to join in with at least some of the organising. I then offered to my son I would pay for the wedding suits for the men which was agreed. I really felt isolated & plus it doesn’t help I live on my own & still work as am not as well off as in-laws as I was widowed some 9 years ago -so they are able to afford to give much more than I can give - although I do my utmost to help out - both financially and emotionally & babysitting which of course is when I am at my happiest. Am I being over sensitive or jealous? I have no daughter so I questioned myself that maybe I resent I will never experience wedding plans for a daughter?
Anger management!!! Help needed.