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Oldwoman70 Tue 08-May-18 11:45:16

I have put all my financial information (such as it is!) in a password protected file on my computer and have given the password to my sister in law who is also my executor. A copy of my Will and Power of Attorney is in my desk drawer with details of the solicitor holding the original.

Dontaskme Tue 08-May-18 11:43:31

Thank you Applegran - I've just used your link and ordered one.
I think about dying a lot, more so now I'm at the same age as other people I know/knew have died. I got very maudlin when I discovered that one of my first boyfriends (yes, there were many, ah the memories smile) had died last year.
I think about it in relation to my GC - those who haven't even been invented yet and those who we don't see, wondering if I'll have time with any of them to be of any significance.
I remember my mother keeping only what she needed and having the most spick and span cupboards and drawers "just in case". She even did her washing every evening before bed so no undesirables were ever left for someone to find. That's not me at all so good luck to whoever has to sort things out after me - apart from the Life Book, which I'm sure they will be happy about. Actually more so me, as I'll be able to find out just when the flipping car needs insuring again, who the house is insured with etc. Online everything is hard for me to keep track of so I've asked for it in the post. Happy days.

Smileless2012 Tue 08-May-18 11:40:34

This thread is a good idea Applegran and has certainly given me something to think about. Thank you.

Panache Tue 08-May-18 11:36:54

True enough,whether we like it or not,whether we choose to hide ourselves away from real life or not,death is inevitable for us all.

Whilst it cannot be the subject chosen at every family gathering, it is surely very astute to set aside a certain period to hold these family discussions.
Whilst Age U.K`s Life Book may well be the pointer to get all those necessary details in order to make the period around death less of an harassment...........seeking certain papers and all the million and one things required grouped properly under the one same heading makes perfect good sense.
When these affairs are thus organised, then one can quite happily go back living life to the full yet again,it should only take a little while out of the rest of your life.

It certainly needs our attention and surely sooner is better than later?
Thank you Applegran for taking the "proverbial bull by the horns".......spelling it out in plain but simple form.

Applegran Tue 08-May-18 11:08:05

I wonder how many other Gransnetters find that as you get older, it becomes more real that you will die. I know we don't want to think about it most of the time, but we also know it will happen. I have thought about how my children will manage the aftermath of my death - and I've always made sure I have a will. But there are so many other things they will need and I won't be there to say "Oh - just look in the kitchen drawer!" or "Its in a file labelled "finance". I've found Age UK's "Life Book" is a really good way to put together all the information the children (or executors) will need - either when you die, or if you cannot easily manage your own affairs at some point.
www.ageuk.org.uk/information-advice/care/home-safety/lifebook
In practice I used the Life Book as a guide and actually put all the information into a document on the computer. This allowed extra space where I needed it, and I can up date it easily. But Age UK has thought through the things that matter. I put it off for ages, but then found it wasn't really too hard to do, and it feels a relief to have done it.