Unexpected and scary

I've discussed this with my DH Diana and we both think you should do both.

Whether or not you want to take things further after the meal is your own business but over the course of the long weekend you might notice things in his behaviour that you didn't notice before, for example, what he's like first thing on a morning? how clean he is?

They say you don't really know someone until you live with them so a long weekend is a bit of a taster.

I do think you should have a back up plan to get back home incase it all goes abysmally wrong.

Stay safe and good luck XX

Diana54.Having enjoyed dates and now a dance with this man ,that awakened your feelings, is no indication an invitation for a weekend away 'all inclusive ' if you get what I mean ? would leave you begging for more.
Or spoiling what has in the words of the immortal Carpenters 'only just begun' by insisting on single rooms .
He too, like yourself, may not be as confident as you think he might be so why not take it one step at a time. My suggestion is to start on home ground and is there any reason you could not invite him to your place for an intimate evening meal with nice wines, candlelight and soft music in the background then take it from there.? Hopefully with this' no rush atmosphere' you will have the opportunity to get to know this man just that little bit more than a few dates and a dance has provided you with .Good Luck.

You lucky lady, I was widowed 5 years ago, I'm 62 now & have been on my own ever since DH died so I understand how you feel. As you already knew him & his background & have had a few dates I would go for the weekend away but insist on separate rooms & just see how it goes, I think neutral territory is the way to go. Good luck & do talk to him if you feel nervous.

Enjoy your weekend away, pack your own condoms!!
STD's are defiantly the rise in over 50's

If you can't talk openly about the prospect of sex with this new bloke then it doesn't sound if you are ready for it!!!

Be honest with him about your fears. I am sure he is equally hesitant. DH and I have been happily married for 13vyears now. The beginning much like you. We had progressed to a cuddle on the sofa when he suggested a weekend away in a nice hotel so we agreed a date in a couple of weeks time. A few days later he came to supper and without any planning I said 'Are you going home tonight or do you want to stay?' The rest is history! He always says I seduced him and he found that very sexy! He has since admitted he was petrified at the time. Talking honestly is the key - and listening to each other. Have a happy time

STD's are defiantly the rise in over 50's
GrannyGravy13;

What about the over 90s?

Good Health and Keep Safe
OoRoo

I think the fact that you know him and know his background is a really positive thing. If it were me, I think I'd invite him round for a meal and see where that led to.....

If you prefer, have the meal and then start a conversation explaining that you have a few worries.

Maybe he's nervous too. I think it quite possible that he is a bit worried as well.

How lovely. Can I just say that if he is the right one he will be more than willing to be patient. If he is not willing to wait until you are comfortable and ready he is not the right man. I understand the neutral territory. Has he actually asked you to share a room or are you just presuming?

Well you know and like him so why not go for the weekend away? Nothing to lose!

Weekend away for sure. You know his background and have known him for a while so I’d have a little word with him before it’s booked about sleeping arrangements. Don’t forget he may be a tad concerned to.Dont over think it you don’t have to do anything you don’t want to do,but I’m sure being away from familiar surroundings and relaxed in this lovely weather you will have a lovely time and what will be will be.

On balance, supper at home has the majority with me seducing him as Mrs JJ said, which then removes the separate room issue and as some have said "its not until you are on holiday with someone that you really get to know them".

Thank you so much ladies you are a lovely lot, do give me any more tips you might have, do PM if you think it's needed. So next problem, my wardrobe is out of date.

On the wardrobe issue: concentrate on some nice new undies, so that if you do want the weekend away not to be single bedrooms all the way, you don't have to worry about undies that have seen better days!

How out of date, is out of date? Wear something you feel comfortable in and feel suits you. Take a light jacket or a sweater with you for cooler evenings

Honestly, most men never notice what we have on.

Who on earth would wear undies that have seen better days on any date let alone if hoping for some action? You say you're a young 65 and yet you say your wardrobe is out of date, it's not a blind date, you've dated before so he has an idea of your style. Stop putting pressure on yourself, relax and wear what looks and feels good even if he's seen it before, and if you do have dodgy undies best you get them sorted and feel comfortable before you take the next step. There is no need to rush, take your time, feel prepared and enjoy it.

How lovely for you, a romantic w'end away, you both obviously fancy each other- go for it.

Nothing wrong with meeting someone online Oopsadaisy, 9 years and 1 son later that’s where my daughter and son in law met!!

As it's your birthday month Rufus, hope you are being "careful" ???

Oopsadaisy, why did you hope she didn't say yes to meeting him online? I met my hubby online about 13 years ago. It's no different really to meeting a stranger in a pub for instance. If someone is a liar and a cheat, they can do that just as easily to your face as online. You just have to be careful and follow the same rules as you would wherever you met them. Never take a first date back to your home. Always make sure someone knows where you are and who with, and if you don't feel comfortable, a quick trip to the loos to phone someone to come and rescue you.

Good luck OP with whatever you choose to do. Life is too short to be alone and unhappy.

Silverlining, you are so right, lots of men over a certain age have their own worries or problems with their 'wedding tackle'! He's maybe having the same conversation with some of his pals. Don't forget, it's easier for a woman to 'fake' things than it is for a man!

I'm wishing you all the luck in the world with your new relationship.
Personally I would invite for supper,buy yourself a "Dine in for Two" with an extra bottle of wine and go from there.
Enjoy.

As it's your birthday month Rufus, hope you are being "careful" ???

GrannyGravy13: Of course;! I always am. I always look Right, then Left, then Right again, before crossing the road.! (We drive on the left too!)
But why single me out?
I assumed your warning was also addressed to over 90s Grannies too! There must be some?.
It's well past my beauty sleep time, so might catch you;
Blimey! I was going to say "tomorrow", but it's already that here.
OoRoo see you "later."

Been married almost 52 years to the same man so I'm probably the wrong person to ask.

Common sense however would dictate you be honest and up front....tell him (in your own words) that it's been a long time since you've been with someone you genuinely care for and that you're afraid you'll jeopardize that with an unforeseen bout of 'stage fright'. If he really cares for you he'll say and do what makes you comfortable.

lots of men over a certain age have their own worries or problems with their wedding tackle
MagicWriter2016; Thanks for that prognosis!
What "certain age" would that be" ?
I'll have to check my "use-by date" and be on the alert, but I don't take much notice of those on my foodstuffs
If it looks and smells alright it's OK by me!
Hasn't let me down so far.
Good Health and take care!
OoRoo

He is probably feeling the same explain how you feel if he cares for you he will understand good luck hope it all works out .

nobody wants a defiant STD