Unexpected and scary

Diana54 I wish you well in your friendship. For me and my friend, our friendship is the most important thing to both of us and neither of us has wanted to do anything that might cause us to lose the friendship. We can now talk openly about everything which is a really lovely situation to be in. I do hope you and your friend can find a relationship which works well for both of you wherever it may take you.

A most positive thread. How exciting. Enjoy yourself.

I would opt for a hotel and have separate ensuite rooms if possible.

This saves a lot of embarrassment re toilet habits and showering first thing in the morning.

So we found a nice shady spot for our picnic and the boys had gone off to play on the park which left myself and Amy aged 9 3/4 she started the conversation :-
Granny, have you really got a boyfriend
" Who told you that darling"
Oh, I heard mummy and daddy talking about it
" What did mummy say"
She thought it very nice.
"What did daddy say "
I'm not sure but he laughed and mummy threw a cushion at him.

After a pause
Have you got a boyfriend granny
" I have got a nice gentleman who takes me out"
Do you love him.
" I'm not sure yet I've only known him a few weeks"
How do you know when you are in love granny
" its when you care for someone a very great deal" - " now where have those boys got to"

How lovely, how innocent but given the level of sex education they get at school I wasn't going to get led further.

Must remember to tell her mum I won't be available for child minding next weekend!.

Supper at home worked a treat in fact it turned out to be the most memorable weekend for many many years, my confidence is now complete. As a bonus we had a long leisurely breakfast, when we had a the conversation " what do we both want from a relationship" and we both look forward to happy times together. Interestingly he had been looking for another girlfriend for a while and had met several younger in their 50s but broke off after a couple of dates for various reasons, then it clicked with me!.
You never know what life brings, so thanks to you all for your help and good wishes.

Well done Diana and I wish you lots of happiness in the future.

That’s lovely Diana, happy days.

I'm not only crazy, I'm nosey as well. Give us a progress report ?

How lovely! The promise of happy, happy times ahead.

Diana54 So happy for you. It sounds like you and I have landed on our feet. Like yours, my relationship is also going from strength to strength. Never expected to be in this position at my age!

Ah, it makes my cynical old heart happy..

Good luck Diana & Greengage enjoy your new relationships and have fun.

Looking back through the posts, votes for supper and weekend away were close to equal, my choice for supper was because I like to control the setting, a weekend away could be anything. Most of all I wanted to get the mood of the evening just right, it was a big step for me after so long I was really frightened of freezing and spoiling it I didn't doubt his intentions given the chance
One post said " why concentrate on bed". For my own confidence I needed prove that I could be his partner and have a close relationship. It's a big step for any widow to change her life, trust a new man to look after her and cherish her but the prospects look good.
He's newly retired with a good pension, he has 2 sons living abroad, no other family in UK and he wants to travel and see the world. I think I can help out with spending his pension and look forward to travel with him starting with a weekend away.
I was given the choice and it will be London, he knows it well I don't, the only certainties are a nice hotel and tickets to Mama Mia I can enjoy it all, no hang ups, no uncertainties.

I hope this update is enough for CrazyH.