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Mother of groom wedding invite

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jordana Sun 29-Jul-18 17:58:48

Years ago in the 1960''s it was the standard etiquette to send a wedding invitation to the grooms parents from the brides mother as it was stated on the invitation that it was " Mr and Mrs ** request the pleasure ..." as it was the brides parents who paid for the wedding. Is this the case nowadays?

notanan2 Tue 31-Jul-18 17:01:07

A lot of it also has to do with who the rsvps are going to. If the invite is from the parents of the bride some people will rsvp to them even if the couples address is given as the rsvp address

Which is fine if the parents of the bride are organised/reliable/involved.. otherwise it could cause confusion.

Happysexagenarian Tue 31-Jul-18 17:01:27

As I always understood it little flower girls walked ahead of the bide to scatter petals to scent her path to the altar, whereas bridesmaids and/or page boys followed her to manage her train and veil and then receive her bouquet at the altar. Perhaps customs are changing because couples marry at venues other than churches now, and because bridesmaids are often all adult. A couple marrying at our local church last year had 6 groomsmen in addition to the Best Man, one each to accompany the bridesmaids as they left the church.

pollyperkins Tue 31-Jul-18 20:06:19

I think thats an American tradition HappyS. As are flower girls too.if you want an english yraditional wedding look at the royal weddings. Bridesmaids and little ones all follow the bride and hold the train.

Padine Sat 01-Sept-18 22:36:59

Reading all the different replies I think ? shows that there is no right or wrong. In our case last year, our lovely DIL sent out all the invitations and we RSVP’d as asked. They had been together 7 years before the wedding but it was still lovely to be traditional.
Someone mentioned “giving the woman away”, that’s no longer part of the religious/Christian wedding ceremony thank goodness.
Yes, happily these days it’s more about what the married couple want as it is , after all, their day!