I'm just not a 'small children' person

If your husband could mind the GC more in the week when you are at work and less at the weekends, that might be the solution. What are his son and partner doing while your husband has them at weekends? If they are out socialising, that's unfair.

We have just had dinner out after delivering the DGC home after a 'sleepover' and there was a Small Child on the next table who played up very loudly (Poor parents, said DH - Negative Parenting said I - but not to them).

As we had just had our own DGC (perfect and lovely children ) staying for two days this was just too much. Luckily the other family left before our meals arrived.

I think having them so often is too much - it's lovely to have a get-together and even have your step-DGC to stay when you agree when, but I think you need to set some ground rules - in as pleasant manner as possible.

Good luck.

I love my little 3 year old grandson, but having him for more than 5 hours at a time is very tiring, but I never say "no" when asked to have him.

I've never been a fan of other people's children, husband would do anything to avoid being around little people!
But enter the next generation and we are putty in their hands, they are my flesh and blood though which I think makes all the difference, I can still take or leave other people's kids but Our granddaughter and great niece who we help out with a fair bit just fascinate us!
They are still little people at 2 and 10 months but they give us so much pleasure and I often say I don't remember ever being so enthralled by our own kids at this age!

It's not wrong to feel as you do, maybe you will feel more able to engage with them as they get older or maybe you won't, can I ask if you have your own children? I think it makes all the difference, seeing my son became a father has stirred something in me that I didn't know I had and I feel such pride in seeing him parent his little girl.

Having said this we do cherish our alone time together as a couple too and although we do what we can to help out its not at the expense of our relationship

I have just spent an hour in the company of a small child at a friends house, so boring , that is all we spoke about plenty long enough for me. My grandson is a teen and a pleasure to be with.

I think the two of you need to really talk about this.Yes, his son may well need some help,but not every weekend [does the son work at weekends?] It's unfair to say that you have to go away from the house, it's your home too!

I think it's not unreasonable for a grandparent to indicate they aren't able or willing to provide childcare. It's a two-way street. GPs can't demand time with their GC and by the same token AC don't have the right to demand that their parents provide childcare.

I wonder if maybe you are still seeing the little ones so often because they are trying to ease into a new routine? A new parent in the household is a HUGE transition in and of itself, and to completely change a child's routine right at the same time may just be too much.

Well they won’t always be small or be wanting to come to Grandads so just grit your teeth ? Time will solve the problem if you just hang on.

In the meantime I would go out, go off for a weekend to see friends or actually just potter about doing my own thing regardless. Is there room for a den? ( for you, not them!) Let Grandad do his thing and you do yours.

That makes 3 of us (4 if you count my OH)! I enjoy my grandson so much more now he is in his teens.
I fully except some people do love to be with wee ones but, I get BORED!

Well stand next to you and get mine kicked, too.
I'm not a 'small children' person either.
I don't know what the answer is, for you; probably what your husband suggests, for the sake of not causing upset or hurt.