When to revive a friendship.

Time does whizz by and you suddenly realise you have not contacted people. I have had experience of holidays being spoiled by friends behaving selfishly. A weekend break is a good way to find out if you are compatible in a holiday setting.
I wouldn't worry too much about being the organiser of this, I find that usually there is one person in a group who keeps in touch and plans for everyone ( usually me )
Suggest a day out to break the ice and see how the land lies.

Lancslass1, how rude to single my comments out like that.

For one I never mentioned an e-mail or letter and certainly not out of the blue asking to go on holiday. I also never asked her to do as I say as you suggested. My words were merely encouragement, as Cabbie21 has already said she has a lot in common with at least one friend.

Yes, we are all different and just because some like to go on holiday on their own or have had bad experiences holidaying with friends does not mean she should not proceed down that road.

Like others the suggestions are made for her to judge her best options.

How lovely that the widowed lady above was thrilled to be asked in her local church. Well done.

I have a feeling that might have been meant for me lancslass1? Either way Molly10 is right - the OP was asking for suggestions and we should all be free to give them without being criticised or singled out.

I have a group of local friends and we went away for a long weekend . It was fun! We did not know each other very well but it all worked out ok!

Molly 10 and Willow 10 I apologise to you both.
I am new to this site and realise I should not have mentioned either of you by name.
Perhaps someone can tell me whether I was in order for me to mention the two people with whom I agreed
If it wasn't ,then I apologise to them also.
In my ignorance I thought that had Cabbie 21 read my post and referred back to the ones I mentioned it might help her in making a decision.
Well,I have learned by my mistake as it is certainly not my intention to upset anybody and thank you Molly 10 for making me aware of the rules of this site.

It's forgotten lancslass, thank you.

I shared a room on a group holiday with a friend and as we got on well we rented a cottage together this summer. It was great fun and I am sure we will do it again soon, My only worry was that I am a bit tight when it comes to spending money and she isn't! We solved that by having a kitty. Fortunately the very expensive restaurant we tried on the first night was not really very good so we ate well at home most evenings Why not join the U3A and go on one of their holidays. You would also make a lot of new friends there.

Lancslass1 - Thank you for your apology which is accepted and no grudges held. I don't believe there is a problem saying you agree with certain people and mentioning there names. I would say it's more about being respectful to others .

I am beginning to think that we either fall into the group of friends who do the asking/organising or into the group who wait to be asked. I always seem to be in the former group and have waited to see if certain friends contact me first, and no they don’t, but when I contact them I will get ‘oh, I was just thinking about you’. It can be disconcerting sometimes and you do sometimes question whether they really want to be your friend or not.

I would suggest a weekend away to begin with - dipping a toe in the water. Maybe with a theme that you've both been interested in, e.g. theatre or exhibition?

MagicWriter2016 it could just be that they lack confidence that you will want to hear from them. When you are the one to make contact they are delighted.
I tend to think people won't be very interested in hearing from me but I contact them anyway and it often works out very well. (If it doesn't, I've lost nothing.)

I agree with Pearlsaminger. It is said you don't really know a person until you live with them.
I used to meet a friend almost weekly for coffee and we got on together really well.
We then decided to go on holiday together and it was disastrous. Our relationship just did not work.
I don't think she realised how 'bossy' she was and over coffee was fine - but on a holiday where I lived with her 24/7 - no.
I have a wide circle of friends but a very special one who I have been friends with for over 50 years. We only see each other 2 or 3 times a year and yet I still class her as my closest and 'very best' friend. Sometimes, I refer to people as friends when they are just close acquaintances. They are still important though and I would not be offended if one of them rung me up to go for a coffee or if I rung them and they were not available.

With such things, I always think that we probably both thought about the lost closeness over the years and I just happen to be the one who got to making that phone call first.

It makes sense.

FarNorth, you could be right. I am the sort of person who talks to anyone, I think I learnt that when I was a young mother and moved to a new estate that was just being built. As one of the last ones to move in, everyone else already seemed to have their own little group of friends. It was a case of either go up to folk and just start to chat about something or end up standing at the window watching them all go in and out of each other’s homes for a cuppa etc. I soon got fed up looking out the window lol!