My husband is lying to me

Lindill, I cannot bear lies either, and being made to feel foolish. There is much sensible advice from people (and some which is rather unhelpful and unkind). You need to find an appropriate time to ask him, without being confrontational, as it is just niggling away at you, and not doing your health any good. Please let us know the outcome. Best wishes.

Thank you for your understanding- there are certainly some unkind and totally wrong comments on here.

Gabbby you run your life how you want. A chalk board in our kitchen suits our happy go lucky household. Not sure why it is 'sterile' to chalk up that I am off to a meeting or that DH meeting friends for lunch. We might have told each other last week but we find it helpful to remind ourselves! We had 2 children, we both worked hard, did further degrees & qualifications, still have very busy social & working lives, close to our friends and family , have ups and downs but are happy and content.

The OP is feeling unsettled and unhappy. She knows things are not as usual and that is an issue for her. She asked GNers for their ideas on how to manage the situation. I got the feeling it was not so much what happened but that it was a change of usual behaviour that was troubling her.

Are you in a position to follow him?

No - and wouldn’t anyway. He mostly goes alone to matches. Last time he sent what I think are previous photos to “prove” where he was - I questioned then why he hadn’t got rail or match tickets as he normally does but let it lie. Just wonder what the heck he’s doing all day!

I'm a bit confused. Are we responding to Lindill49 or Torbaygran?

Hey what’s happened here has Lindill metaphorped ???

Ohh this is strange a bit like a game of who’s who ?

Not just me who’s confused then! Can Lindill help?

I'm puzzled too. Let's hope an explanation will be forthcoming or we'll be forever wondering....

Sorry - they changed my username for me as I was too identifiable. Thanks for all your posts - once again I’m letting it go for the sake of a quiet life. It’s not worth a confrontation and falling out for weeks. I just feel I’m going mad sometimes when things don’t add up!

But it hasn’t changed to your advantage Torbaygirl as the original post is still showing up as your old name so really it hasn’t helped at all as you may still be too identifiable It’s only changed for your last few posts I would go to HQ and ask them to change ALL your posts including the Otiginal one if you are concerned

My husband and I are both of the opinion that if you want to live separate lives then you shouldn't bother getting married in the first place. These are my husbands words by the way, he says that when you are courting, you spend every spare moment you can with that person so why, suddenly does it have to change after you are married? My sister and her husband live separate lives, separate funds etc, tomayto tomato. This isn't about trust it's about principle. I heard once, if you need to lie to your partner then your doing something you shouldn't be, there may be some element of truth in that. My DH and I always tell one another where we are going, it's common courtesy as a lot have said. When I go shopping with my sister I ask him if he'll be ok and his response is always yes and he'll find something to keep him occupied, I don't take offence to his reply.