Shopping with DH is a nightmare!!

It's another world! We go round the supermarket together, with a list. There are extra or impulse buys always but never of sweeties.

Oldwoman70,

My mistake sorry.

I love shopping for groceries with my wife.

My husband has done the ‘big’ food shopping, once a week since he retired. I tend to pop out and get the things that I like. He’s better than me about not buying cakes! ?

enjoyed reading these,but I wish my husband was still here to go shopping with

My dh only used to go shopping at Christmas, and oh is he such a spendthrift! We spend way too much money together - Dangerous to the budget, but it's so much fun!

....Until we truly couldn't afford it and I had to be scrooge.
I tried to get all the shopping done beforehand, lol

Now that the kids are grown, we don't spend near as much, but on a whim (and a ridiculous British Airlines sale) we bought tickets to Italy for 11 days next Easter!
No kids!

I told him no Christmas gifts to each other this year!
And he said, fine, don't get him anything, but I'll get you a gift after all....oy!
Time to go shopping.

My (sort of) OH likes choosing clothes for me but we sometimes do food shopping in the same place but with separate trolleys. He eats 'lo fat' stuff, I have full fat everything. I love butter, he prefers olive oil spread. Neither of us drink and that's about the only common denominator in our lives. We don't live together but, when we go up to town or he's abroad with work, he won't do High Street stuff, (my thing) but will pay for bespoke shirts for both of us and I did get a very nice pencil skirt from VB, a D&G trench coat and evening trousers and silk/ lace cami from Versace.
I prefer Mango, H&M, Oasis, M&S, Zara and Primark.
The other day he complimented me on a top I was wearing.
I smiled. It cost £8 in last years H&M sale and my jeans were £10 from Primark. My £25 bag from Oasis was more than all the rest of my outfit put together as my 4 yr old F&F boots were £4 in a charity shop.

You should try shopping with a DH, who has dementia, in tow, who keeps disappearing, selects stuff and then puts it back somewhere else, Puts things in and takes things out of other people's trolleys, usually requires a couple of toilet visits, usually when we are next in the Q at the check out and has been known to swan off outside, looking for the car, when I am half way through the checkout - nightmare. It can take nearly 2 hours to do the weekly shop, only to arrive home and discover that he has 'put back' essential items when my back was turned.

Don’t get from h but gd have to curb her.

Old boots

I shop online he has no input what so ever. I do ask occasionally if there is anything he needs or would like but generally he leaves it up to me.

Not much different from mine! Always fills the cart but then stands at the checkout while I unload and then pack everything up. It did dawn on me recently to stop offloading part way through and start packing up at the other end so he has to take over!

My wonderful husband is doing all the food shopping at present and cooking meals for us (post op - mine).

His supermarket outing is quicker and cheaper than if I was doing the weekly shop (and he brings unhealthy chocolate goodies back to cheer me up during my recovery).

Bless him. His efforts are very much appreciated.

Recently I was shopping in Aldi (other shops available) when a lady picked up a piece of cheese and her other half said, "put it back we can't afford it". I was behind them at the check out and the husband said, "come on let's go to Macdonalds for lunch"!!!!

Do you have to shop together?We ? I gave up when on so many occasions after filling the trolley I spent as much time walking up and down the aisles looking for H than it had taken to do the shopping.So if he wanted to accompany me.?? handy when loading items in the car it was a mutual decision he would buy a newspaper and go and have a coffee where I would join him before taking the shopping to the card.

Granny23 you sound as if you really have your hands full with your DH. You make shopping with him sound amusing, but it must be such hard work. I would dread the thought of him putting things in his pockets, unnoticed by you. Do you have to ‘frisk’ him when you get to the checkout? You need an extra pair of hands/eyes to go along with you.

Shopping with my late DH wasn’t half as bad, but rather expensive. He would disappear for a while, then suddenly pop up while I was looking at something. At the checkout I would start unloading the trolley, and find various cds and dvds secreted underneath the groceries. He used to get ‘told off’ for costing us so much. When he became too frail to go out, though, all his acquisitions came into their own. He spent hours watching his boxed sets of favourite comedy series, or listening to his music, and they kept him happy.

I miss seeing his guilty grin, when I spotted the illicit purchases. I donated them all to our local Hospice, and they are now amusing and cheering the sick people there.

If we shop alone, we have discovered that we spend all our time concerned about what the other one might like. That's why my husband is out just now shopping and I know he will come home with healthy food that I would choose forgetting to get all his favourites. It will dawn on him one day soon.

I go on my own to do the grocery shop! When we shop together it is often a leisurely event at a mall, or out-of-town place. OH has a clever little knack of going missing after a few minutes, but, old habits die hard, and I can always find him (when I need to) in eg. John Lewis tech department, or M&S shoe section. He's soooo predictable. It's his birthday today, so maybe we could do a dedicated visit , just to one of his preferred sets of shelves

I order on line and get it delivered. He can't interfere that way and we only get what we need. Although he actually loves shopping its me who doesn't

The answer is obvious, you refuse to go shopping with him and do the grocery shopping by yourself. If he continues to buy unhealthy food items and then develops type 2 diabetes, you cannot be blamed!

It's other women's menfolk getting in my way when I'm supermarket shopping that really annoy me. Some sort of stand in the middle or in front (of the aisle, of the area in front of the tills, the basket stacks, the doorway) oblivious when the shop is clearly busy. If they're that awkward, leave them at home please.

Oh Evianas I feel your pain!! My DH is just the same but we never now shop together. Luckily I do food shop when he is at work but almost every day he had popped into supermarket on his way home & bought all sorts of food we do not need & should not be eating anyway. It drives me mad. I can get no more in larder or freezer.
I gave up other shopping with him decades ago as he goes into every shop & moochs round every flaming shelf. I know what I am going out to buy & only go to shops that sell it.
We have a house full of rubbish we do not need& will never use. I sling it out eventually but it is such a waste of money. He is BiPolar which I think doesn't help but it drives me to distraction!

My dearly beloved used to love the supermarket shop. As soon as we were through the door he would scuttle off to the ‘reduced bit’, and later find me and the trolley while clutching all sorts of bargains! One year he got lose and bought two......yes TWO fresh turkeys on Xmas Eve! I’d already got one at home ready to cook the next day, and the freezer was full having been stocked up for the festive period. There were only the two of us in the house, and we were only having two extra for lunch the next day anyway! I can’t remember the number of times I would patiently explain it was only a bargain if we actually ate the stuff in the end, rather that it ended up in the bin! It used to drive me nuts, but I have to admit I miss him so much now he’s gone that I’d even be thrilled if he greeted me with a load of frozen turkey legs!

Now we are both retired DH likes to sometimes accompany me on the food shop. He doesn't add stuff to trolley. But he rearranges everything I put in the trolley. If there are 3 things in the trolley he will rearrange them! Apart from that he's not too bad. But he does loathe most other forms of shopping, so he rarely goes with me. We walk into a shop and within a minute or so he's too hot and has to wait outside, which means I feel I have to rush. He's a nightmare.

That is my DH as well. Ive banned him now. That was probably his plan!

We had this problem when my OH retired. After years of having NO interest in grocery shopping, he was suddenly an expert in shopping from trying to rewrite the shopping list, what size trolley we needed, and how to pack the bags! he also added loads of extra stuff (and then complained about the cost). I now order a BIG grocery shop online about once a month to stock up on the staples (and then just get some fresh stuff as and when I can). As we can be flexible about when we're at home, we can take advantage of the cheaper slots (and often they're free). It saves us both a lot of hassle and I wish I'd done it years ago!